by queenofdreams | Aug 31, 2017 | News
From Monday 4th September, Skype session prices will be as follows:
1 Hour Session:
£90 GBP via Circle
$115 USD via Circle
$125 USD via Gumroad
2 Hour Session:
£180 GBP via Circle
$230 via Circle
$250 via Gumroad
I have done my research and ensured that my prices are still very competitive. As you guys know I love what I do and never want cost to be a barrier to enjoying the pleasures of trance.
As always, if you have any questions then feel free to email me
by queenofdreams | Aug 25, 2017 | Hypnosis
The concept of erotic hypnosis is still a relatively niche one, and not as of yet particularly well developed. It’s growing, for sure, but there are still grey areas where delineations are somewhat blurred. The differentiation between what constitutes a hypnoDomme and an erotic hypnotist are excellent examples of this.
The two terms are often used interchangeably to mean “more or less” the same thing, but I’m not convinced that that’s the case. To my mind, if you’re a hypnoDomme then by the very nature of what you do you’re likely also an erotic hypnotist but I also believe it is possible to be an erotic hypnotist without also identifying as a hypnoDomme.
Why? Well, it all comes down to the specialities of each profession. To aim to make things a little clearer I’ve provided brief (and subjective as they’re purely based on my own interpretation) definitions of hypnoDommes and erotic hypnotists to hopefully better illustrate my point of view.
HypnoDommes are hypnotists who specialise in working within the BDSM niche. They utilise hypnosis as a means to heighten/deepen typical D/s (Dominant/submissive) scenarios. The focus is on creating a richer dynamic, and introducing trance allows a hypnoDomme to deepen their control (with the consent of their subject) which allows for an often much more intense experience. What were traditionally physical aspects of the BDSM scene – for example bondage – can also be brought into play as a hypnoDomme can use the power of a hypnotic trance to convince a subject that they are appropriately bound (and have the subject believe this absolutely) even in the absence of physical restraints.
Erotic Hypnotists are more generalised. The application of hypnosis is for the purpose of eroticism/arousal and whilst this can encompass D/s elements, it is by no means confined to them. Hands-free orgasms, for example, can be used by HypnoDommes as an expression of control but they do not need to be framed this way. An erotic hypnotist could induce a hands-free orgasm purely because it is a pleasurable/erotic experience. Some people do not like the idea of being submissive/giving up control and with erotic hypnosis they do not have to. Giving up control is not a requirement to enjoy trance. It’s simply an added option that exists if you want to utilise it.
Personally I identify as an erotic hypnotist who can and does incorporate being a hypnoDomme when it’s appropriate to do so. Why do I identify myself this way? Because my main focus is pleasure, and (as long as it’s legal of course), I don’t discriminate how that pleasure is enjoyed. Some people’s pleasure incorporates submissive elements, but for others it doesn’t and I like being able to embrace both sides. Besides, even when I do incorporate D/s elements into trances, my style of domination is typically much more subtle and nuanced than the average Domme. I’m not overt, I don’t make demands…but I still manage to accept and exert complete control where appropriate.
I hope that as the erotic hypnosis/hypnoDomme scene continues to grow the delineations and nuances between the two will continue to become more pronounced as I do worry sometimes that people who may be interested in Erotic Hypnosis are perhaps discouraged by the assumption that submission/surrender and other D/s elements are required. Erotic hypnosis is open to all who enjoy pleasure in all its forms. As a hypnotist I can literally make your fantasies become your realities and let’s be honest– how cool is that?!
I would love to hear your thoughts on the similarities/differences between hypnoDommes and erotic hypnosis so please feel free to share in the comments below.
by queenofdreams | Aug 21, 2017 | Hypnosis
So the eclipse happening today (21st August 2017) has been in the news (certainly in the US) a good deal recently. It sparked an interesting conversation between myself and a dear friend about the parallels between eclipses and hypnosis and to that end we both decided to express our thoughts. My friend me-chan’s story can be found here: Eclipsed (excellently written and well worth a read!) and I’ve included my own thoughts in a recording for you below.
As always, relax, indulge, enjoy and if you appreciate it and/or have thoughts/comments please do share – makes my day 🙂
by queenofdreams | Aug 13, 2017 | Uncategorized
Okay – this is a question I get asked a lot in various different ways. For example: what makes a good trance subject? How do you know someone is a good trance subject? What do you look for in a trance subject? (and various other iterations).
I know how I would answer this, and in a moment that’s just what I will do but I want to preface this by saying that by and large it is subjective if you’re looking at it from the hypnotist’s perspective (which, for the purposes of this blog, I am).
Objectively, to my mind, there is no such thing as a bad subject. Subjectively, however, from a hypnotist’s point of view, if they struggle to trance someone, they may perceive the subject as a bad hypnosis subject. It doesn’t mean they are, it simply means that due to the hypnotist’s own limitations that’s their perception.
I guess the way I would choose to describe it is to liken it to a student who is being taught a particular subject. If the student applies themselves but still struggles, who is at fault? The student or the teacher. The student is not at fault – they are applying themselves but they simply don’t understand where the teacher is coming from. The teacher is also not necessarily at fault – they’re used to teaching their subject a certain way and most students understand them. The fault exists, however, if the teacher then tries to blame the student for their poor performance rather than recognising that their style of teaching doesn’t make sense to the student. If blame is allocated then to my mind, that’s where the fault occurs.
I’ve had so many clients come to me and say they have either assumed or been told that they are a “bad” subject because the hypnotist struggled to hypnotise them. It’s a sad but all too common occurrence and the first thing I do is reassure the client that they are not a bad subject. All that’s happened is they haven’t yet found a hypnotist whose style resonates with them. So they learn in a different way? So what? It doesn’t make them a bad subject, but to my mind, any hypnotist that tries to claim they are is a poor hypnotist who doesn’t recognise their own shortcomings. No one, single induction will work on 100% of people. A good hypnotist will have a range of tools in their toolbox and a thorough understanding of when and how they can be applied to different situations.
So what do I say when I get asked what makes a good hypnosis/trance subject? My answer is simply an open mind, honest communication and a willingness to engage with the process. I don’t suggest that you need to be “good” at trance because that statement is meaningless. Einstein was, in his early career, not considered to be good at maths (I know, right?) but look at what he achieved. And “good” is subjective. Some people may say “good” is an experienced subject who they can trance easily whilst others may think a “good” subject is one who will challenge them and make them work to help the client obtain the trance, encouraging them to explore and utilise new techniques.
For my part, as long as you’re open minded, communicate with me and engage then I can be as sure as I can be that you are an amazing subject and that we will both have a great time. Plus – I’ve yet to be proved wrong on that front (though I guess I could be jinxing it by saying it! haha).
I absolutely love what I do (I cannot convey that enough) and part of what I love is showing you what you are capable of. You are a great subject and you’re capable of amazing, incredible and wonderful things. All I ask for is the opportunity to show you!
by queenofdreams | Aug 11, 2017 | Uncategorized
Hypnotic trance can be an absolutely amazing experience but there are many people who struggle to understand and/or enjoy hypnosis to its full potential. After all, the hypnosis community is growing steadily, but the reality is that at present it remains a relatively small niche area and the information available is limited. At the same time, misconceptions, preconceptions and assumptions about what hypnosis is and how it work abound and can create confusion and uncertainty.
I would like to take the opportunity now to dispel some of those myths and to share some information about hypnosis – what it is and isn’t, why it’s totally safe and how you can more easily and effectively enjoy discovering and experiencing all the amazing possibilities on offer. Please bear in mind that the view I am presenting are subjective – they represent my interpretation and understanding, but at the same time I have been involved in hypnosis for many years, and a lot of people have fed back to me that they have found my explanations useful. I hope you do, too.
If you’re reading this, you’re no doubt curious about hypnosis, but may be struggling to understand how it works. The first thing you need to know is that the ability to trance successfully is a natural, innate skill that we all possess. Ever daydreamed, become so focused on a task in hand that you forget what’s going on around you, got lost in thought or been driving on a familiar route, eventually arriving at your destination without fully recalling how you got here (aka driving on autopilot)? Those are all examples of light trance. They’re not remotely dangerous and you can bring yourself out of trance any time you want. None of that changes when you’re working with a hypnotist.
The best analogy I have found to explain hypnosis and to dispel some of the more common misconceptions is to liken trancing to learning a new skill. For instance, if you wanted to learn to play the piano, you can teach yourself the basics, but if you want to get really good at it then you bring in someone to show you how – someone to teach you how you can build upon what you’re already capable of. This is exactly what a hypnotist does. Hypnosis is not something that is “done” to you. Hypnotists are simply teachers/guides/facilitators. We’re there to show you how you can effectively tap into your own natural trancing ability and get better at it. We can help highlight to you the signposts your mind and body offer which tell you that you’re on the right path in terms of going into trance (e.g. breathing slowing, mind becoming clearer and more focused, etc) and we can be there to support and guide you through exploring and discovering all the possibilities which hypnotic trance offers.
If you’re looking for someone to teach you, then presumably you’ve done your research into your teacher. You’ve checked that they have experience, that they are happy to put your mind at ease by answering any questions you have, and that you are comfortable with their style of teaching. You research and check all of these things because you are making an investment. It is no different with regards to hypnosis.
I also recommend starting out with a live session (it doesn’t have to be in person – via Skype works just fine) if you can as the experience will be more personalised – more tailored to your specific requirement and it will give you a firmer foundation from which to build your experience. The hypnotist will be able to answer your questions, explain what you may be experiencing and why and is better placed to help guide you and teach you how to recognise the signs that you are going into trance. This is very important as a lot of people have preconceived ideas about what will happen and how it can feel, and if the reality doesn’t match their expectations they can feel as if they’ve failed (even when they haven’t) and it can delay your ability to fully enjoy and appreciate the power and pleasure of trance.
The most simplistic explanation of trance is to suggest that instead of your typical conscious awareness, which is outward looking and focuses what is going on around you, trance shifts the balance to the internal focus of the subconscious which looks inward. This makes you more self-aware of what and how you feel, and also gives you greater self-control which is what allows you to make positive, long-lasting changes in therapeutic hypnosis and in recreational and erotic hypnosis gives you the power to enjoy incredible pleasure and experiences. In other words you’re not “asleep” in trance – quite the opposite. You’re more self aware, focused and in control than usual. The reason many people close their eyes (which relates to the false idea that hypnosis is sleep) is either because they assume it is a necessary part of trance or because it helps them to focus.
One issue which crops up a lot is the concept of control. I just want to clarify that it is not necessary for you to give up any control to enjoy hypnosis. However, if you are so way inclined, you can (ideally once you have built up a sufficient rapport and level of trust with the hypnotist) offer to give up/give over control to the hypnotist you are working with so that he or she is “given the reins” so to speak and can give commands and suggestions which you automatically respond to. For some people this is an incredibly erotic concept and it can be used to great effect with hypnosis, but I want to reiterate, especially for those who are worried or concerned about losing control that it is merely an option (if you choose to do so) rather than a necessity. Look at it this way – you have to have control to be able to give it up. Control cannot be taken from you – it can only be requested by a hypnotist and/or offered up by you.
I hope you’ve found this article useful. If you have any questions, queries or feedback you’d like to share then please get in touch. You can drop me a message at info@queenofdreamshypnosis.com or on Twitter @British_Hypno.
