The Importance of Ethics In Hypnosis (***TRIGGER WARNING***)

***trigger warning: this blog contains details relating to inappropriate triggers used on a minor***

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Those of you who know me know how I pride myself on my ethics, especially when it comes to hypnosis. It is very important to me that my clients know and feel safe with me. That they understand that their well-being is my priority.

Recently someone added a comment to a blog I wrote. I didn’t feel that the comment was appropriate to allow in response to the blog itself due to potentially triggering content, but I have included it below as an illustration of why ethics are so, so important in hypnosis (I should add that the story below is essentially “hearsay” as I have no way to independently verify what the original author has claimed occurred):

At a stage show a couple of years ago at the Hypnothoughts Live conference in Las Vegas, a 15-year old girl was among the participants. She was implanted with a trigger that when her shoulder was touched, she would orgasm. After the show, people (men) kept coming up to her and touching her shoulder – it was VERY distressing to both the girl and her mother, who was present.

This should have been a NO-NO! It was highly improper and unethical, on the part of the hypnotist, especially with a minor and not to have removed the suggestion!”

It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure out why the above behaviour is incredibly inappropriate and that in itself makes the alleged event even more dismaying. It is so obviously, blatantly unethical and downright predatory – not only of the hypnotist but the men who chose subsequently to take advantage. The fact that the individual in question was also a minor makes what transpired even more heinous.

I simply cannot emphasize enough how important ethics is in hypnosis. Your hypnotist should make you feel safe and confident in their abilities as well as satisfied that they are placing a significant emphasis on your well-being. Trust your gut. If something feels “off”, even if you can’t put that feeling into words, you do not need to proceed. If you are in trance and the hypnotist suggests something that you are not comfortable with, you are not obliged to follow through. What will most likely happen is that you will snap out of trance at which point you can verbally object to the hypnotists suggestion. If the suggestion you were uncomfortable with wasn’t a deliberate ploy on the hypnotists part then they should be able to calmly talk through with you what happened and why, take this in to account and be mindful moving forward. They shouldn’t ask or encourage you to trance again until you feel comfortable and confident to do so. If the suggestion was deliberate (sadly bad, unethical hypnotists do exist as the above story illustrates) then you have the option to walk away altogether.

I think part of the problem is that people feel that once they are in trance they lose all control and feel as if they have to follow through with triggers and commands, even if they are not comfortable with them. This is simply not true. You always have a choice. It doesn’t matter how deeply you are tranced. If this is an area of concern for you then I would recommend listening to a free mp3s I have – “Art of Control”. If it makes it easier for you, listen through the first time without trancing to make sure you’re comfortable with the content.  Doing this won’t prevent you from being able to achieve and enjoy trancing to this recording when you are ready to.

If you are a hypnotist reading this – please be mindful of ethics and ethical implications of what you’re doing and/or want to do. Your subject is placing their trust in you. Please don’t abuse it. Your subjects physical and mental well-being should be your top priority.

 

Thoughts? Comments? Please share below.

Why Stage Hypnosis Is Like Porn

We’ve all seen those stage hypnosis shows where people seem to be tranced instantly and deeply with just a single word and made to do all sorts of weird and wonderful things. Looks impressive, doesn’t it?

Of course, what they don’t tell you is that the subjects are either faking it or have been carefully selected by the hypnotist because they are naturally highly susceptible to suggestion. Stage hypnosis is like the porn of the hypnosis world – showy and overhyped. Yes it *could* happen in normal day to day life but the odds are astronomical. hypnosis can be “real” but that doesn’t necessarily make it realistic.

Full disclosure – I am not a big fan of stage hypnosis (I know, surprising, right? Haha). I find it’s often exploitative and the potential lack of consent makes me uncomfortable (for those rare somnambulists who are exceptionally susceptible to trance they may not be able to consciously consent to the request to go up on stage, for example).

Stage hypnosis, like porn, has its place. It’s showy and entertaining. It can be exciting to watch, sure, but it can also give unrealistic expectations of what to expect, which can be very unhelpful when trying to achieve your goal.

Just as there are arguments to be made that porn leaves open the door for unrealistic expectations of how men and women should behave and what sex should look/feel like, stage hypnosis does the same. It makes it look as if everyone should be able to trance instantly, that hypnosis is big and showy and dramatic.

More negatively, it can also scare people. They may be worried that they would/could be made to embarrass themselves and/or be forced to do something that they are not comfortable with. This is not true, but if you don’t understand hypnosis and how it works and stage hypnosis is your only experience then it is easy for incorrect inferences to be made.

To use a porn parallel, I’ve heard it said that porn gives women an unrealistic expectation of how quickly a plumber will attend a call out and come to their house. Likewise if watching porn is your only experience of sex you’re going to have a pretty warped view of how things should play out.

Porn and stage hypnosis are entertainment. They can be fun and enjoyable but they don’t accurately reflect the depth of potential and possibilities that exist, nor the richness of the actual reality.

If not appreciated for the entertainment they are then both can also lead to unrealistic expectations which can have negative impacts and knock-on effects.

Having said all that, this doesn’t mean that what you see in stage hypnosis isn’t achievable. Given time and a hypnotist you trust many of the triggers, etc, you see played out on stage can be recreated and enjoyed. What’s important is to realise that this doesn’t happen instantly. You need to learn to run before you can walk, so enjoy the journey and enjoy the entertainment for what it is.

You don’t need to use confusion inductions to hypnotise analytical subjects

This blog post evolved into a direction that is mainly aimed at helping hypnotists understand why confusion inductions are not always necessary – or indeed appropriate – for trancing analytical subjects, but I hope hypnosis subjects also find the information useful/insightful. If, after reading, you have any questions or thoughts please leave comments below. Thank you!

 

Speak to your average hypnotist about analytical people and you tend to get one or a variety of the following comments: that they’re “bad” or “difficult” subjects and that the only way you can successfully trance them is with the use of confusion inductions.

 

Those comments? They’re all absolute rubbish. Those of you who know me know that I absolutely love working with analytical subjects and years of hypnosis experience has consistently shown me how amazing and capable analytical subjects can be. I have written plenty of blog posts on the subject to date.

 

In my many years (going on for a decade now) of being a hypnotist I also rarely use confusion inductions and yet have successfully hypnotised hundreds (I stopped counting years ago) of analytical subjects. How do I achieve that? Why do I go against the widely held/accepted belief that confusion inductions are the only reliable way to hypnotise analytical subjects?

 

Well, again, to be blunt – because it’s nonsense. Confusion inductions can be useful for trancing analytical people but so can many others. It’s most certainly not the only way to successfully trance analytical subjects. Far from it!

 

So – why don’t I tend to use confusion inductions if they are so popular? The main reason is that analytical people are usually also dealing with varying degrees of anxiety and confusion inductions can be overwhelming and/or uncomfortable in such situations. Of course some subjects will really enjoy confusion inductions but to me they often feel like beating the conscious mind into submission by overwhelming the mind of a subject who, if analytical is likely already prone to overthinking. Sending an overthinking brain into meltdown isn’t the most pleasurable way of inducing trance and as pleasure is a priority for me, I tend to turn to other ways of inducing trance.

 

This brings us to the million dollar question – how exactly do I trance analytical subjects? Unfortunately there is no clear cut simple answer as I tailor every induction to the individual subject but I can offer some general pointers. Firstly, and I cannot emphasize this enough the pre talk is important. I’m generalizing here but for the most part, analytical subjects like structure. They like to know what to expect. And even if it’s not “necessary” it’s good practice in general for all kinds of subjects to prepare them and let them know what will happen as well as dispelling some common myths (e.g. the myth that trance is like sleep to give one example).  If the subject has an idea of what to expect then it helps to keep them focused and their mind is less likely to wander.

 

Secondly, never tell an analytical subject to “relax” and “not think about anything”. That is one of the worst things you can say to an analytical subject. It’s akin to telling someone not to think of a pink elephant. What’s the first thing you think about?

 

Finally, it’s okay if analytical people want to analyse their trance experience. Doing so won’t distract them or hinder the process in any way (assuming of course the hypnotist is competent and used to working with analytical subjects).

 

There are many different types of inductions you can use, and there’s no “one size fits all” approach. The induction is less important than the subject and what they need to enjoy a successful trance. If you go into a session determined to use a particular induction then you’re limiting your success rate (and potentially traumatizing the subject) whereas if you go in with an open mind, speak with your subject/client about what they need (they may not know how to articulate it, but again, a competent, experienced hypnotist will know what questions to ask to get the answers they need) then your success rate potentially skyrockets as you’re tailoring the induction to your client, and not trying to force your client to engage in a particular induction.

 

As I said before, some clients will respond well to confusion inductions and I am not dismissing such inductions out of hand. They remain a potentially fun and useful tools (I use confusion inductions with some of my regular clients for fun because I know how to do so in a more light-hearted way and I also know they trust me). What I am suggesting is that confusion inductions are not a blunt tool that can/should be applied to all analytical subjects. Get creative, have fun with inductions, experiment and learn to tailor your approach as a hypnotist to what your client actually needs, not what you assume they need.

The benefits of being owned

Whilst it’s true to say that I operate primarily as an erotic hypnotist rather than a hypnoDomme (meaning the Dominant/submissive [D/s] dynamic is optional), I do enjoy truly special relationships with some very good boys. A genuine relationship takes time to establish as trust and mutual understanding must be given the opportunity to evolve and flourish, but the results can be truly incredible.

As a case in point, I enjoyed a lovely Skype hypnosis session (find more info here) earlier today with a very good boy who I have known and interacted with for a good while.  We enjoy a strong D/s dynamic and he has found a great deal of comfort, reassurance and pleasure in choosing to surrender to my control. I take great pride in empowering my submissive boys – encouraging them to be the best version of themselves that they possibly can be, and I love watching my boys gain confidence through submission and truly shine.

In the Skype hypnosis session we enjoyed today, we tried a little experiment. I put him into trance and had him write a note for his conscious mind. His conscious mind would have no recollection of writing the note, nor any input into its contents.  I gave no guidance or suggestions regarding what to write – the content of the note was entirely up to his subconscious mind to share.

The results ended up being so beautiful and eloquent I immediately asked my boy if he would mind me (anonymously) sharing it and he kindly agreed.

Here it is:

“This butterfly is auxillary, it flutters up, and shows you something.

The benefits of being owned are numerous and inobvious. There is the level of relaxation it can bring, the peace of mind, the feelings of focus and devotion.

The incomprenensible depth of pleasure.

The sensual pleasure of exploring yourself, knowing your Mistress is exploring with you and that the depths you feel are exposed to her control, that your pleasure is her pleasure, that you can be consumed and utterly give yourself to her power.

That you can appreciate the beauty of her voice, her body and her mind, her will, her power overwhelming you with bliss, your consciousness overwhelmed and subject to her power, her beautiful power and strength, and grip.

The pleasure of relinquishment, of feeling her will at your core, of feeling her words as your own thoughts, of her words becoming your own mind.

The freedom of not having to think, to worry, to strategize, but just to obey what is given to you as a sensual gift”.

Such a beautifully written, eloquent expression of his experience of submission to me. Of being owned by me.  I wanted to share it with you to give you a glimpse into the possibilities that exist in submission to me…the potential for pleasure and personal growth.

Every dynamic is different – every boy chooses to express their submission in different ways – but submission is a gift, and there is pleasure to be had in both gifting yourself through submission to a Domme you trust as well as reaping the benefits of submission and surrender.

I hope you’ve enjoyed this glimpse into the possibilities.

Thoughts? Opinion? Questions? Please share by leaving a comment (or two) below. Thank you.

The hypnosis experience can be a surprisingly intense one

The hypnosis experience can be a surprisingly intense one.  Immersive in ways it can be difficult to comprehend until you’ve lived it. Experienced it first hand. Being in trance….feeling and embracing the possibilities is incredible and transformative but such pleasures and the expansiveness of the experience can also be overwhelming. Especially if you’re also including additional emotional elements such as submission and/or realisation of additional fantasies and desires.

Hypnosis can take you by surprise. Its effects can feel temporarily overwhelming and that’s okay. This is why I always encourage open and honest communication as well as engaging in trance with a hypnotist you trust. Being able to talk through your feelings and emotions openly and honestly, confident in receiving reassurance and support is very important.

Engaging with someone you trust and feel safe with is grounding. It can help you navigate and cope with what can feel like a very vulnerable situation.  Your hypnotist should be an anchor. They should focus and ground you, offering a safe space to explore the infinite possibilities hypnosis offers. I appreciate the pull of the temptation to dive right in.  To abandon yourself to the experience. To completely give yourself a favor, no holds barred. The potential is intoxicating. possibilities are alluring and addictive. Once your mind and body get a taste what hypnosis feels like, it’s like a gateway drug.   You want more. You want to take the next step, to explore and discover and to drink in the new possibilities. That excitement and anticipation perfectly reasonable and understandable. I’ve been practicing hypnosis for years. I know exactly how potentially addictive  cassia can be. How exciting the possibilities are, and how easy it is to crave more.

It’’s for these reasons but I always recommend researching, taking time understand who it is it will be playing with your mind encouraging your explorations, guiding you in what can be one of the most pleasurable experiences that you will ever enjoy.  Because to be able to fully enjoy and appreciate the pleasure, you have to feel safe in the environment you’re exploring. This involves enabling and establishing a level of trust with the hypnotist you are working with, which in turn opens doors to even more incredible pleasure and possibility.  Once you trust them, once you understand they have your best interest at heart, you’re able to let go and embrace the experience of hypnosis in an entirely new and Incredibly powerful way.

Establishing trust and communication means it in those moments when you feel overwhelmed, when things just become too much, you are secure in the knowledge  that you can communicate any fears,worries or concerns these will be listened to and acknowledged by your hypnotist. they can reassure you, offer explanations and tailor your hypnotic experience to ensure that it is as beneficial and pleasurable as possible.