I’m back in the UK!

So – due to the unprecedented issues relating to the COVID-19 virus, I am back in the UK earlier than anticipated. I had to plan moving my entire life from one continent to another in 3 days and it’s been exceedingly stressful and expensive.

I am working on getting my studio set up so I can continue with sessions/recording, but I am starting from scratch so bear with me as it may take some time.

In the meantime, your ongoing support is much appreciated. These are uncertain times and being self employed I face more uncertainty than most to begin with.

I promise as soon as I have a desk and chair I will be recording/offering sessions again. If you’re aching to trance for me and want to help expedite the process, please consider purchasing items from my amazon wishlist:

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Trancing someone effectively when there is a language barrier

The concepts of trance/hypnosis appeal to a broad range of people with a variety of languages and cultures. As a hypnotist, trancing someone who does not speak the same language as you (and indeed being hypnotised by someone who speaks a different language) can potentially present additional considerations bit none of these are insurmountable.

I’m writing this blog post from the perspective of a hypnotist but the points I raise can often be flipped and applied to the perspective of the subject looking to be tranced by someone who speaks another language so bear that in mind when reading. Also, most of this is common sense but I’ve found even common sense can be reassuring when reinforced so this is to remind you that language does not have to be a barrier to a fun and effective trance!

The first thing to consider, as a hypnotist, is whether or not the subject has a good enough grasp of your language to be able to understand what you are saying. They do not need to be fluent but the session will go a lot more smoothly if they can broadly understand what you are suggesting/conveying.

Secondly, be mindful of the language you’re using. Sometimes we are all prone to using more complex words, terms and phrases because we feel they get a point across better or are more efficient but these may not always be well understood by a non-native speaker. Consider if there are more simple, straightforward and easily understood phrases that you can use. It’s not about “dumbing down” in any way. More about being more self aware and considerate in the language you use.

Also, give consideration to the speed at which you speak and your diction. Don’t over do it. Speaking too slowly and over-emphasizing can come across as patronising and it goes without saying that that is not the intention. But again, being mindful of how fast you speak can make a difference. The same as if you’re speaking with someone in a language you are learning/unfamiliar with. If the other person speaks a bit more slowly and clearly it can be easier for you to understand what is being said.

Reinforce the fact that the person you’re working with is allowed to speak up if there’s something they don’t understand. Questions don’t hinder trance – even if the subject is going into trance or already in trance. State this at the outset. Work it into your pretalk and reassure the person that questions are ok.

Make a point of proactively “checking in” and making sure that you’re being understood appropriately. Ask if there is anything you can do to ensure that you are better understood. Trance is a collaborative effort – you’re supporting your subject and showing them how to capitalise on a skill they already possess. Also regularly self-analysis your own communication. If you are speaking more slowly are you making sure you’re not speaking too slowly or that your speech is stilted?

There’s a lot to consider so it’s worth practising self awareness of how you communicate in sessions in general as a form of preparation. I don’t suggest this to make you self conscious, but to make you self aware. It’s good practice as the more aware you are of how you present yourself, the more opportunities you are giving yourself to improve (and we are all open to improving, all the time. It’s natural and to be encouraged. Fine tuning your abilities will help you to better yourself and your hypnosis capabilities.).

Why sceptics can make the best hypnosis subjects

Can I just start by saying how much I absolutely love working with people who are sceptical
of hypnosis. I’m not kidding – it is so rewarding being able to see people who came to me as
sceptics embrace the empirical evidence that tells them that they have just experienced
something that perhaps only an hour before they thought was impossible. To see for
themselves the positive changes and to be incredulous at the newly discovered possibilities.

One of my favorite things about hypnosis is that you don’t have to “believe” in it to work. It’s
not like a religion – you don’t have to have faith. All you need is an open mind – and
sometimes not even that. Because hypnosis is a natural state which just about everyone
has experienced to varying degrees – whether they realise it or not (ever driven on auto-pilot
and arrived at your destination without being fully aware of how you got there?) – my job as a
hypnotist is not to “do” anything to you. All I need to do is teach you how to capitalise on
skill you already posses. If you’re open to learning a new skill then the rest is easy.

The easiest people to impress are those that doubt hypnosis exists at all – give them simple
instructions to follow and if they do they can see and experience first-hand evidence that
they are capable of enjoying hypnosis. Slightly more difficult are those who have attempted
and struggled. I had a case recently with someone who told me that various people had
tried to hypnotise them before without success. They had come to the conclusion that it
could not be done. An hour later, the same person emerged from a deep trance with a big
smile on their face. My secret? Tailoring the experience to suit the individual. Because this
person had been so convinced that they were incapable of enjoying hypnosis, the resultant
experience of it was, for them, even more profound.

Sceptics have everything to gain and nothing to lose by enjoying hypnosis. You don’t need
to believe it will work – as long as you’re capable of following simple instructions you can see
for yourself first-hand the results. You get to experience something totally unique and can
utilise the experience to make positive and long-lasting changes in your life.
If you are curious and would like to know more, drop me an email today at info@queenofdreamshypnosis.com

How Long Do Triggers Last?

This is somewhat of a “how long is a piece of string?” question as there are many factors that can affect how long the effects of a trigger last.

Some of these can include:

  • The skill of the hypnotist who implants the trigger
  • The willingness of the subject to accept the trigger/how comfortable they are with the trigger
  • How easily the trigger can be integrated into day to day life (e.g. if it is simple/beneficial and can be used regularly then it may well last longer than a strongly sexual trigger that the subject is not entirely sure about and can only be used in very particular situations.

Personally speaking I have one hypnosis subject who I tranced many years ago (before becoming professional). I gave him a fun trigger to have a pleasurable response upon seeing a particular candy bar. Years later (approx 2-3 years after I had ceased hypnotising him ) he sent me a message to say that the trigger was still as effective as ever.  More recently I have had clients come to me for a live session after a lapse of a few months and been surprised at how effective the triggers I gave them in previous session/s still are.

As a hypnotist, if you want a trigger to be effective and to last then you need the clients subconscious to be on board with what you’re asking – after all, it will be the subconscious mind who will be implementing the response to the trigger.

Firstly, keep the trigger simple – don’t make it overly complex or with multiple steps to take effect. Simple is effective and easy to implement.  Secondly, allow the trigger to be pleasurable. We all want to enjoy pleasure, right? So give your subject a new opportunity to enjoy pleasure with the trigger. This can be sexual or non-sexual pleasure (there’s a myriad of different types of pleasure you can make use of), but if you are aiming for sexual pleasure for the love of god think very carefully about when/how the trigger will be implemented.  You don’t want your subject to be accidentally triggered at an inappropriate moment.  This is one of the reasons why almost all the triggers I give my subjects only work when I say them. For those that aren’t, I ensure that I word the instructions for the trigger in such a way that there is no way they will cause problems and/or embarrassment. Typically a statement along the lines of the client enjoying the trigger only when appropriate to do so. If saying something like this make sure that you have a good understanding of what the client considers to be appropriate. If in doubt, don’t give them the trigger.

 

How Effective is Text Hypnosis?

There are countless ways to hypnotise someone – in person, over the phone, live video (like Skype)…and then there is hypnosis over text. Many people seem to be especially suspicious of text hypnosis and I regularly get asked if it is effective. Now you have your answer:

Text trance can be just as effective as any other form of trancing but it does require a skilled and experienced hypnotist if it is to be carried out effectively.

The hypnotist can’t rely on visual cues over test so the hypnotist is essentially “working blind” from that perspective. Personally speaking I compensate for this by relying on my extensive experience – you get a feel for what stage people are at based partly on general experience and partly on how they respond. It’s a mix of experience, intuition and knowing what questions to ask to work out where things are at and what needs to be done to develop/monitor the trance state.

If a subject is capable of following simple instructions and being honest about what they are experiencing then text trance should be successful, especially in the hands of a skilled hypnotist.

Text hypnosis is a “different” experience to other types of hypnotic induction but is equally effective and you can still experience and enjoy deep trance.

This type of induction works even if you are skeptical. I have hypnotised plenty of people who weren’t sure if it would work – they still tranced deeply for me.

I initially added text hypnosis to my site as a temporary measure when I was moving and unable to offer video sessions. The plan was to remove the option for text hypnosis sessions once I had settled, but they proved to be so popular that I decided to leave them as an option.

I do have some testimonials for text hypnosis sessions on my “Testimonials” page which are worth taking a look at if you are curious.

Any thoughts, comments, questions? Please share them below.

The Importance of Ethics In Hypnosis (***TRIGGER WARNING***)

***trigger warning: this blog contains details relating to inappropriate triggers used on a minor***

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Those of you who know me know how I pride myself on my ethics, especially when it comes to hypnosis. It is very important to me that my clients know and feel safe with me. That they understand that their well-being is my priority.

Recently someone added a comment to a blog I wrote. I didn’t feel that the comment was appropriate to allow in response to the blog itself due to potentially triggering content, but I have included it below as an illustration of why ethics are so, so important in hypnosis (I should add that the story below is essentially “hearsay” as I have no way to independently verify what the original author has claimed occurred):

At a stage show a couple of years ago at the Hypnothoughts Live conference in Las Vegas, a 15-year old girl was among the participants. She was implanted with a trigger that when her shoulder was touched, she would orgasm. After the show, people (men) kept coming up to her and touching her shoulder – it was VERY distressing to both the girl and her mother, who was present.

This should have been a NO-NO! It was highly improper and unethical, on the part of the hypnotist, especially with a minor and not to have removed the suggestion!”

It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure out why the above behaviour is incredibly inappropriate and that in itself makes the alleged event even more dismaying. It is so obviously, blatantly unethical and downright predatory – not only of the hypnotist but the men who chose subsequently to take advantage. The fact that the individual in question was also a minor makes what transpired even more heinous.

I simply cannot emphasize enough how important ethics is in hypnosis. Your hypnotist should make you feel safe and confident in their abilities as well as satisfied that they are placing a significant emphasis on your well-being. Trust your gut. If something feels “off”, even if you can’t put that feeling into words, you do not need to proceed. If you are in trance and the hypnotist suggests something that you are not comfortable with, you are not obliged to follow through. What will most likely happen is that you will snap out of trance at which point you can verbally object to the hypnotists suggestion. If the suggestion you were uncomfortable with wasn’t a deliberate ploy on the hypnotists part then they should be able to calmly talk through with you what happened and why, take this in to account and be mindful moving forward. They shouldn’t ask or encourage you to trance again until you feel comfortable and confident to do so. If the suggestion was deliberate (sadly bad, unethical hypnotists do exist as the above story illustrates) then you have the option to walk away altogether.

I think part of the problem is that people feel that once they are in trance they lose all control and feel as if they have to follow through with triggers and commands, even if they are not comfortable with them. This is simply not true. You always have a choice. It doesn’t matter how deeply you are tranced. If this is an area of concern for you then I would recommend listening to a free mp3s I have – “Art of Control”. If it makes it easier for you, listen through the first time without trancing to make sure you’re comfortable with the content.  Doing this won’t prevent you from being able to achieve and enjoy trancing to this recording when you are ready to.

If you are a hypnotist reading this – please be mindful of ethics and ethical implications of what you’re doing and/or want to do. Your subject is placing their trust in you. Please don’t abuse it. Your subjects physical and mental well-being should be your top priority.

 

Thoughts? Comments? Please share below.