How your preconceptions of hypnosis are setting you up to fail

There are innumerable myths and stories surrounding hypnosis. It’s perceived as somehow magical and mystical – a profound and yet somehow unknowable experience. Ideas like you can’t be tranced or will struggle with trance if you’re analytical (which is absolute nonsense); that hypnosis is like sleep (it’s not) or that you have to be lying down to achieve trance (you don’t) – just to give you some examples.

Most of these myths and preconceptions are harmless, but they can also affect you and your ability to trance, even if you don’t realise it or fully appreciate their impact.

If you go into the trance experience with the expectation that you are going to struggle or find it difficult then you’re suggesting to yourself that this is what you should and will experience. Your mind is incredibly powerful. It shapes your reality so if you prep it with negative ideas then these can very easily potentially translate into a negative reality.

Setting out with preconceived ideas of what trance is or how it should be/feel can also be counterproductive. Granted there is so much misinformation floating around (trance is sleep, etc) that it can be difficult not to pick up on common assertions/assumptions about hypnosis and how it works (1980s cartoons are also awash with “hypnosis” scenes) and assume that this is how hypnosis is supposed to play out. But if the reality doesn’t align with your expectations of what you feel trance “should” feel like then this can throw you off, make you doubt your experience and once again, sets you up for failure which is obviously not what we want!

Whilst it is important to learn about hypnosis so you can understand the experience and what to expect, it’s also important not to be led astray by the plethora of misleading information, assumptions and downright fiction that is floating around.

The problem is – if you know little to nothing about hypnosis (which isn’t a bad thing – everyone has to start somewhere) how do you separate the genuine information from the assumptions and misleading information that abounds? How do you ensure you’re giving yourself the best possible shot and not setting yourself up to fail by being misled by misconceptions?

You can take steps to ensure your success by making sure you critically evaluate the information you receive about hypnosis. What is the source? Is the source likely to be legitimate? Credible? (E.g. has the information come from an experienced hypnotist? How do you know they are experienced? A recommendation? Do you trust the person who made the recommendation?)

I know this seems like a lot of additional effort to go to – giving critical consideration to every piece of information – but doing so will pay dividends. You’ll be much better placed to understand what to expect which in turn will allow you to feel less nervous and more confident in your experience.

You can also try reaching out to experienced hypnotists with carefully thought out questions. Most experienced hypnotists will be happy to answer one or two simple questions but be mindful that you’re making use of their time/expertise so don’t be surprised if they request to be reimbursed – especially for more detailed questions/ more time taken up. Even if they don’t, it is polite to offer to show that you appreciate them sharing their knowledge with you. Especially as it is directly benefiting you.

At the end of the day, you can bolster your chances of success with trance by taking time to research and filter information. Knowledge is power after all. The more you know and understand, the less nervous and more comfortable and confident you will feel which in turn will allow for more success and opportunities with trancing.

Now – go forth, learn, and most importantly – have fun!

I’m back in the UK!

So – due to the unprecedented issues relating to the COVID-19 virus, I am back in the UK earlier than anticipated. I had to plan moving my entire life from one continent to another in 3 days and it’s been exceedingly stressful and expensive.

I am working on getting my studio set up so I can continue with sessions/recording, but I am starting from scratch so bear with me as it may take some time.

In the meantime, your ongoing support is much appreciated. These are uncertain times and being self employed I face more uncertainty than most to begin with.

I promise as soon as I have a desk and chair I will be recording/offering sessions again. If you’re aching to trance for me and want to help expedite the process, please consider purchasing items from my amazon wishlist:

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Trancing someone effectively when there is a language barrier

The concepts of trance/hypnosis appeal to a broad range of people with a variety of languages and cultures. As a hypnotist, trancing someone who does not speak the same language as you (and indeed being hypnotised by someone who speaks a different language) can potentially present additional considerations bit none of these are insurmountable.

I’m writing this blog post from the perspective of a hypnotist but the points I raise can often be flipped and applied to the perspective of the subject looking to be tranced by someone who speaks another language so bear that in mind when reading. Also, most of this is common sense but I’ve found even common sense can be reassuring when reinforced so this is to remind you that language does not have to be a barrier to a fun and effective trance!

The first thing to consider, as a hypnotist, is whether or not the subject has a good enough grasp of your language to be able to understand what you are saying. They do not need to be fluent but the session will go a lot more smoothly if they can broadly understand what you are suggesting/conveying.

Secondly, be mindful of the language you’re using. Sometimes we are all prone to using more complex words, terms and phrases because we feel they get a point across better or are more efficient but these may not always be well understood by a non-native speaker. Consider if there are more simple, straightforward and easily understood phrases that you can use. It’s not about “dumbing down” in any way. More about being more self aware and considerate in the language you use.

Also, give consideration to the speed at which you speak and your diction. Don’t over do it. Speaking too slowly and over-emphasizing can come across as patronising and it goes without saying that that is not the intention. But again, being mindful of how fast you speak can make a difference. The same as if you’re speaking with someone in a language you are learning/unfamiliar with. If the other person speaks a bit more slowly and clearly it can be easier for you to understand what is being said.

Reinforce the fact that the person you’re working with is allowed to speak up if there’s something they don’t understand. Questions don’t hinder trance – even if the subject is going into trance or already in trance. State this at the outset. Work it into your pretalk and reassure the person that questions are ok.

Make a point of proactively “checking in” and making sure that you’re being understood appropriately. Ask if there is anything you can do to ensure that you are better understood. Trance is a collaborative effort – you’re supporting your subject and showing them how to capitalise on a skill they already possess. Also regularly self-analysis your own communication. If you are speaking more slowly are you making sure you’re not speaking too slowly or that your speech is stilted?

There’s a lot to consider so it’s worth practising self awareness of how you communicate in sessions in general as a form of preparation. I don’t suggest this to make you self conscious, but to make you self aware. It’s good practice as the more aware you are of how you present yourself, the more opportunities you are giving yourself to improve (and we are all open to improving, all the time. It’s natural and to be encouraged. Fine tuning your abilities will help you to better yourself and your hypnosis capabilities.).

Exciting New Experiment

I am always looking for ways to improve my website and your experience. To that end, I’ve decided to try a new experiment for a month…it’s a loyalty points/reward system.

Basically, once you have registed with my site (I appreciate most of you will already be registered in which case no need to re-register) you have the opportunity to earn loyalty points by completing various tasks (e.g. leaving reviews, commenting on blog posts, making purchases, etc). The more points you earn, the more rewards you get.

Rewards include special badges for your account as well as potential discounts on future orders.

I’ve also included a “level up” membership connected to the points system. There are 3 levels at present – bronze, gold and silver. Each time you “level up” you’re rewarded with a permanent % discount on future purchases on my site.

I am trialling the software for 30 days to decide whether it is worth investing in. Whether this project will continue beyond 30 days depends on you. Like it? Want to keep it? Then use it and give me feedback!

Remember and let me know what you think. I’m open to ideas for improvements such as more badges/different rewards.

 

Why sceptics can make the best hypnosis subjects

Can I just start by saying how much I absolutely love working with people who are sceptical
of hypnosis. I’m not kidding – it is so rewarding being able to see people who came to me as
sceptics embrace the empirical evidence that tells them that they have just experienced
something that perhaps only an hour before they thought was impossible. To see for
themselves the positive changes and to be incredulous at the newly discovered possibilities.

One of my favorite things about hypnosis is that you don’t have to “believe” in it to work. It’s
not like a religion – you don’t have to have faith. All you need is an open mind – and
sometimes not even that. Because hypnosis is a natural state which just about everyone
has experienced to varying degrees – whether they realise it or not (ever driven on auto-pilot
and arrived at your destination without being fully aware of how you got there?) – my job as a
hypnotist is not to “do” anything to you. All I need to do is teach you how to capitalise on
skill you already posses. If you’re open to learning a new skill then the rest is easy.

The easiest people to impress are those that doubt hypnosis exists at all – give them simple
instructions to follow and if they do they can see and experience first-hand evidence that
they are capable of enjoying hypnosis. Slightly more difficult are those who have attempted
and struggled. I had a case recently with someone who told me that various people had
tried to hypnotise them before without success. They had come to the conclusion that it
could not be done. An hour later, the same person emerged from a deep trance with a big
smile on their face. My secret? Tailoring the experience to suit the individual. Because this
person had been so convinced that they were incapable of enjoying hypnosis, the resultant
experience of it was, for them, even more profound.

Sceptics have everything to gain and nothing to lose by enjoying hypnosis. You don’t need
to believe it will work – as long as you’re capable of following simple instructions you can see
for yourself first-hand the results. You get to experience something totally unique and can
utilise the experience to make positive and long-lasting changes in your life.
If you are curious and would like to know more, drop me an email today at info@queenofdreamshypnosis.com