How your preconceptions of hypnosis are setting you up to fail

There are innumerable myths and stories surrounding hypnosis. It’s perceived as somehow magical and mystical – a profound and yet somehow unknowable experience. Ideas like you can’t be tranced or will struggle with trance if you’re analytical (which is absolute nonsense); that hypnosis is like sleep (it’s not) or that you have to be lying down to achieve trance (you don’t) – just to give you some examples.

Most of these myths and preconceptions are harmless, but they can also affect you and your ability to trance, even if you don’t realise it or fully appreciate their impact.

If you go into the trance experience with the expectation that you are going to struggle or find it difficult then you’re suggesting to yourself that this is what you should and will experience. Your mind is incredibly powerful. It shapes your reality so if you prep it with negative ideas then these can very easily potentially translate into a negative reality.

Setting out with preconceived ideas of what trance is or how it should be/feel can also be counterproductive. Granted there is so much misinformation floating around (trance is sleep, etc) that it can be difficult not to pick up on common assertions/assumptions about hypnosis and how it works (1980s cartoons are also awash with “hypnosis” scenes) and assume that this is how hypnosis is supposed to play out. But if the reality doesn’t align with your expectations of what you feel trance “should” feel like then this can throw you off, make you doubt your experience and once again, sets you up for failure which is obviously not what we want!

Whilst it is important to learn about hypnosis so you can understand the experience and what to expect, it’s also important not to be led astray by the plethora of misleading information, assumptions and downright fiction that is floating around.

The problem is – if you know little to nothing about hypnosis (which isn’t a bad thing – everyone has to start somewhere) how do you separate the genuine information from the assumptions and misleading information that abounds? How do you ensure you’re giving yourself the best possible shot and not setting yourself up to fail by being misled by misconceptions?

You can take steps to ensure your success by making sure you critically evaluate the information you receive about hypnosis. What is the source? Is the source likely to be legitimate? Credible? (E.g. has the information come from an experienced hypnotist? How do you know they are experienced? A recommendation? Do you trust the person who made the recommendation?)

I know this seems like a lot of additional effort to go to – giving critical consideration to every piece of information – but doing so will pay dividends. You’ll be much better placed to understand what to expect which in turn will allow you to feel less nervous and more confident in your experience.

You can also try reaching out to experienced hypnotists with carefully thought out questions. Most experienced hypnotists will be happy to answer one or two simple questions but be mindful that you’re making use of their time/expertise so don’t be surprised if they request to be reimbursed – especially for more detailed questions/ more time taken up. Even if they don’t, it is polite to offer to show that you appreciate them sharing their knowledge with you. Especially as it is directly benefiting you.

At the end of the day, you can bolster your chances of success with trance by taking time to research and filter information. Knowledge is power after all. The more you know and understand, the less nervous and more comfortable and confident you will feel which in turn will allow for more success and opportunities with trancing.

Now – go forth, learn, and most importantly – have fun!

I’m back in the UK!

So – due to the unprecedented issues relating to the COVID-19 virus, I am back in the UK earlier than anticipated. I had to plan moving my entire life from one continent to another in 3 days and it’s been exceedingly stressful and expensive.

I am working on getting my studio set up so I can continue with sessions/recording, but I am starting from scratch so bear with me as it may take some time.

In the meantime, your ongoing support is much appreciated. These are uncertain times and being self employed I face more uncertainty than most to begin with.

I promise as soon as I have a desk and chair I will be recording/offering sessions again. If you’re aching to trance for me and want to help expedite the process, please consider purchasing items from my amazon wishlist:

https://www.amazon.co.uk/hz/wishlist/ls/QKEG768GZG2R?ref_=wl_share

If you want to really make a difference and support me, then “say thank you”

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Thank you to all those who have continued to make purchases over the last week. Good boys!

Exciting New Experiment

I am always looking for ways to improve my website and your experience. To that end, I’ve decided to try a new experiment for a month…it’s a loyalty points/reward system.

Basically, once you have registed with my site (I appreciate most of you will already be registered in which case no need to re-register) you have the opportunity to earn loyalty points by completing various tasks (e.g. leaving reviews, commenting on blog posts, making purchases, etc). The more points you earn, the more rewards you get.

Rewards include special badges for your account as well as potential discounts on future orders.

I’ve also included a “level up” membership connected to the points system. There are 3 levels at present – bronze, gold and silver. Each time you “level up” you’re rewarded with a permanent % discount on future purchases on my site.

I am trialling the software for 30 days to decide whether it is worth investing in. Whether this project will continue beyond 30 days depends on you. Like it? Want to keep it? Then use it and give me feedback!

Remember and let me know what you think. I’m open to ideas for improvements such as more badges/different rewards.

 

Why sceptics can make the best hypnosis subjects

Can I just start by saying how much I absolutely love working with people who are sceptical
of hypnosis. I’m not kidding – it is so rewarding being able to see people who came to me as
sceptics embrace the empirical evidence that tells them that they have just experienced
something that perhaps only an hour before they thought was impossible. To see for
themselves the positive changes and to be incredulous at the newly discovered possibilities.

One of my favorite things about hypnosis is that you don’t have to “believe” in it to work. It’s
not like a religion – you don’t have to have faith. All you need is an open mind – and
sometimes not even that. Because hypnosis is a natural state which just about everyone
has experienced to varying degrees – whether they realise it or not (ever driven on auto-pilot
and arrived at your destination without being fully aware of how you got there?) – my job as a
hypnotist is not to “do” anything to you. All I need to do is teach you how to capitalise on
skill you already posses. If you’re open to learning a new skill then the rest is easy.

The easiest people to impress are those that doubt hypnosis exists at all – give them simple
instructions to follow and if they do they can see and experience first-hand evidence that
they are capable of enjoying hypnosis. Slightly more difficult are those who have attempted
and struggled. I had a case recently with someone who told me that various people had
tried to hypnotise them before without success. They had come to the conclusion that it
could not be done. An hour later, the same person emerged from a deep trance with a big
smile on their face. My secret? Tailoring the experience to suit the individual. Because this
person had been so convinced that they were incapable of enjoying hypnosis, the resultant
experience of it was, for them, even more profound.

Sceptics have everything to gain and nothing to lose by enjoying hypnosis. You don’t need
to believe it will work – as long as you’re capable of following simple instructions you can see
for yourself first-hand the results. You get to experience something totally unique and can
utilise the experience to make positive and long-lasting changes in your life.
If you are curious and would like to know more, drop me an email today at info@queenofdreamshypnosis.com

How Long Do Triggers Last?

This is somewhat of a “how long is a piece of string?” question as there are many factors that can affect how long the effects of a trigger last.

Some of these can include:

  • The skill of the hypnotist who implants the trigger
  • The willingness of the subject to accept the trigger/how comfortable they are with the trigger
  • How easily the trigger can be integrated into day to day life (e.g. if it is simple/beneficial and can be used regularly then it may well last longer than a strongly sexual trigger that the subject is not entirely sure about and can only be used in very particular situations.

Personally speaking I have one hypnosis subject who I tranced many years ago (before becoming professional). I gave him a fun trigger to have a pleasurable response upon seeing a particular candy bar. Years later (approx 2-3 years after I had ceased hypnotising him ) he sent me a message to say that the trigger was still as effective as ever.  More recently I have had clients come to me for a live session after a lapse of a few months and been surprised at how effective the triggers I gave them in previous session/s still are.

As a hypnotist, if you want a trigger to be effective and to last then you need the clients subconscious to be on board with what you’re asking – after all, it will be the subconscious mind who will be implementing the response to the trigger.

Firstly, keep the trigger simple – don’t make it overly complex or with multiple steps to take effect. Simple is effective and easy to implement.  Secondly, allow the trigger to be pleasurable. We all want to enjoy pleasure, right? So give your subject a new opportunity to enjoy pleasure with the trigger. This can be sexual or non-sexual pleasure (there’s a myriad of different types of pleasure you can make use of), but if you are aiming for sexual pleasure for the love of god think very carefully about when/how the trigger will be implemented.  You don’t want your subject to be accidentally triggered at an inappropriate moment.  This is one of the reasons why almost all the triggers I give my subjects only work when I say them. For those that aren’t, I ensure that I word the instructions for the trigger in such a way that there is no way they will cause problems and/or embarrassment. Typically a statement along the lines of the client enjoying the trigger only when appropriate to do so. If saying something like this make sure that you have a good understanding of what the client considers to be appropriate. If in doubt, don’t give them the trigger.

 

How Effective is Text Hypnosis?

There are countless ways to hypnotise someone – in person, over the phone, live video (like Skype)…and then there is hypnosis over text. Many people seem to be especially suspicious of text hypnosis and I regularly get asked if it is effective. Now you have your answer:

Text trance can be just as effective as any other form of trancing but it does require a skilled and experienced hypnotist if it is to be carried out effectively.

The hypnotist can’t rely on visual cues over test so the hypnotist is essentially “working blind” from that perspective. Personally speaking I compensate for this by relying on my extensive experience – you get a feel for what stage people are at based partly on general experience and partly on how they respond. It’s a mix of experience, intuition and knowing what questions to ask to work out where things are at and what needs to be done to develop/monitor the trance state.

If a subject is capable of following simple instructions and being honest about what they are experiencing then text trance should be successful, especially in the hands of a skilled hypnotist.

Text hypnosis is a “different” experience to other types of hypnotic induction but is equally effective and you can still experience and enjoy deep trance.

This type of induction works even if you are skeptical. I have hypnotised plenty of people who weren’t sure if it would work – they still tranced deeply for me.

I initially added text hypnosis to my site as a temporary measure when I was moving and unable to offer video sessions. The plan was to remove the option for text hypnosis sessions once I had settled, but they proved to be so popular that I decided to leave them as an option.

I do have some testimonials for text hypnosis sessions on my “Testimonials” page which are worth taking a look at if you are curious.

Any thoughts, comments, questions? Please share them below.