Just because I feel like it, love poetry and want to share a favorite just with you. Enjoy 🙂
p.s. quality is not perfect, I admit, but my voice is still audible and enjoyable. When I have an opportunity I will re-record.
The Importance of Trust in Hypnosis
Trust is a key issue in hypnosis.  Taking the time to cultivate a solid relationship with a hypnotist based upon mutual understanding, trust and confidence is worth its weight in gold.  Trance is, after all, not a binary state.  You’re not either in or out of trance – it’s not that black and white.  There are levels…gradients.  My own personal view is that for many, the deeper and more profound hypnotic states can (and should) only be accessed by working with a hypnotist who you have built a rapport with, and sense of trust.  To be able to surrender yourself that completely, to let go that deeply…that takes confidence.
Think of it like the exercise where you are asked to fall backwards and allow someone to catch you.  The experience would be very different if you were expecting a stranger to catch you, than if it were someone you implicitly trusted, wouldn’t it? I’m not even sure if the issue is related necessarily to perceived vulnerability…a lot of people assume that it is, but the reality is you’re often more in control of yourself in trance than out of it – your mind is sharper and more focused…it’s simply your body which is more relaxed.  I feel that the assumption that allowing someone to hypnotise you is borne of the misconception that you are “controlled” by the hypnotist.  Whilst you most certainly can be controlled by a hypnotist, you first have to consciously choose to give them that power over you.  You have to have control in the first place to be able to surrender it. I do think the assumption of potential vulnerability plays a part, but to my mind the main issue at play, and the reason why you need a hypnotist you trust is because you want someone there who you trust to be able to support you.
You are already capable of trancing naturally – it’s an inherent skill you already possess.  But the journey in to trance can be an unfamiliar one if you are not used to it and it is the hypnotist’s job to act as your guide – to teach you how to recognise the signposts your mind and body offers up to let you know that you are on the right path and to keep going (breathing slowing, mind clearing, etc).
You want to know that the person guiding you has your best interests at heart, that you’re working toward a common goal and that they are there to help and support you if you run into anything untoward. Hypnosis is totally safe but it can be an incredibly profound experience and for some people that can be overwhelming at first, especially if you are new to it.  Having someone there to help ground you and reassure you, as well as to help you discover and explore new facts of trance…that can be an incredible experience.
Being able to trust the person hypnotising you, knowing that they won’t lead you astray or attempt to lead you into territory that you are unfamiliar with – that counts for a lot. So – how do you build trust?  It takes time.  Do your research – read all you can about the hypnotists you’re interested in.  Check out their websites, listen to free recordings (with caution) so that you can get a sense of their style and their strengths and whether you feel they work for you.  Once you’ve narrowed down the list, talk to them.  Any good hypnotherapist worth their salt will be happy to answer any questions you have, so ask as many as you need to put your mind at ease.  Building trust is a process  it’s not something to be rushed into, but it is well worth the investment.
As well as trusting the hypnotist, however, you also have to trust yourself and recognise that the status quo is that you are in control.  No one can take control away from you without your consent, even in trance.  As I said before, you have to have control to be able to submit it to someone else (if you choose to – it’s not a necessity for being able to enjoy trance). That’s why I have recorded “The Art of Control” to share with you.  It’s a recording designed to remind you that until you decide otherwise, you are in control.  I hope you enjoy it and find it useful and I would love to hear your feedback.
Seeing as how the seasons are changing and the transition to autumn is well underway, I felt that this was an appropriate poem to share with you all…enjoy!
Disclaimer: Before you start reading please bear in mind that when i started writing, the article below was not the article I had intended to write…what you see below is simply the result of free-flowing inspiration, borne of a desire to share with you what I do, how I do it and why.  From a literary perspective it is not perfect – it may not “flow” as pleasantly as it should, but it is a good reflection of what it is.  A genuine, raw, naked (metaphorically speaking) insight into my mind and how I work.  I am flawed, I don’t always think or behave logically, but I am passionate – I genuinely love what I do and I really hope that passion comes across in what you read below.  Also, FYI – some of the themes discussed below are of an adult nature, so if you are under 18 or of a sensitive disposition then please stop reading now and direct your attention elsewhere.  That is all 🙂
I have always worked one-on-one with people and taken great delight in tailoring my approach to their unique circumstances. Â The medium may change – working face to face, over the phone, via text, etc, but the unique, individualised approach always remained consistent. Â I love the flexibility and creativity…how it encourages me to think on my feet and keep my mind sharp.
Working this way is a skill which took a number of years to hone…for the longest time after I started I merely danced around variations of the progressive muscle relaxation technique, initially only adapting it as required and preferring to stay on safe ground. Â It was simple, straightforward and effective but the approach lacked the originality and creativity which I craved and it was this desire that led me to push myself and develop my own unique style. Â I studied people, I took risks and most importantly I learned.
Of course, the more I learned, the more confident I became and my inductions became more imaginative and creative as a result. Â I became less afraid to try new things…to experiment and to see where paths would lead and what I would discover. Â Experimenting became fun, and I would challenge myself to regularly create new inductions on the spot. Â These proved to be immensely fun and also incredibly effective. Â Sometimes too effective in fact. Â There were instances where I unintentionally managed to hypnotise people just by talking to them (the slowed speech, distant gaze and increased compliance to suggestions are all big giveaways!), but as someone who is emphatically focused on ethics, this unintentional hypnosis made me very uncomfortable. Â As a result I have been much more careful to consider my words around people who I feel may be particularly talented at enjoying trance.
I developed a knack for being able to work with people who, for whatever reason believed that they would struggle to enjoy trance (or already had). Â I got a real kick out of hypnotising sceptics and absolutely loved seeing the look of surprise on their faces when they realised it had worked – they had been hypnotised! Â I also worked with people who were curious about hypnosis but had never tried it. Â Again, the look of surprise and wonderment as they tried to wrap their minds around what had happened, as well as the pleasure which spilled over even after the trance was finished…they loved it, and I loved the fact that I had been able to unlock that world for them.
Perhaps the most rewarding people to work with, however, were those that had attempted hypnosis, but had, for whatever reason, struggled.  Many of them believed hypnosis worked.  They just didn’t believe it would work for them.  Man, the excuses I heard.  “I can’t be hypnotised”.  “Do you want to be?”, I’d ask them.  “Yes, of course”, would come the reply.  “But I can’t.  People have already tried and they couldn’t do it”.  At this point I smile and ask them three simple questions:
If I get a “yes” to all three questions then I can, with confidence (a confidence borne from experience, I might add!) that I can hypnotise them.  I’ll admit, my confidence is typically initially met with a little scepticism, but I know something they don’t – I am damn good at what I do and once I start using my hypnotic voice then trance is pretty much inevitable.
What typically follows is an interesting session – some realise they’re going under, some don’t realise until it’s too late…it doesn’t matter.  I will have discussed with them beforehand what they are looking to get out of a session, what to expect…afterwards they’re usually still basking in the pleasurable afterglow of the trance experience, simultaneously pleased and perplexed at what happened and how.
Days or weeks pass and I get excited messages – “it’s worked”, they tell me in reference to the solution we worked on in trance to help them resolve whatever problem they had been encountering.  I worked on helping people with everything from insomnia to erectile dysfunction.
Simultaneously, I also dabbled in recreational and erotic hypnosis.  It was a new kind of exploration for me and I enjoyed it.  Turns out the guys (and yes, it was mostly men I worked with) also enjoyed it.  Those that didn’t already know were amazed to discover that yes, it is possible to experience hands-free orgasms, although I do still laugh when I think about one guy who got genuinely mad that I hadn’t pre-warned him that he would cum more than usual (something which seems to be a fairly standard side effect of my erotic hypnosis sessions), and berated me for not warning him about the additional mess he would have to clean up.  I am happy to report that he was a one-off and the general consensus has been pleasant surprise and appreciation of the side-effect.
My hypnosis journey has been somewhat of a meandering one.  I do now intend to work professionally, and as such have paid-for recordings, but because my primary driver is my passion for hypnosis I am also making sure I focus on delivering free recordings, and offering insightful and interesting material where I can.  The key is finding the balance – the more I earn from hypnosis, the more time I am able to dedicate to it.  Being able to have that time to focus on what I am passionate is what drives me.  Bottom line is, corny as it sounds I love being able to help people.  Whether that is to help them overcome a problem in their life or enjoy a mindblowing orgasm is irrelevant to me – the fact is hypnosis is by far and away the most effective tool I have found to date to allow me to be able to do this.  Plus it has the side effect of making the people you’re working with feel awesome.  I mean, seriously – what’s not to love?
In summary, I hope this article has given you a big of an insight into me…into how I work, what I do and why.  Like many things on my hypnosis journey I started out with the intention of writing something totally different (this article was meant to be an explanation of how I devise and compose hypnosis scripts to record – that article will, hopefully, be coming soon folks, so keep an eye out!).  As such, it has turned into somewhat of a meander through my journey….thoughts thrown down like paint on a canvas.  I can only hope that my “masterpiece” makes sense to you.  If it doesn’t, or if you have any questions you can always get in touch with me by dropping me an email at info@queenofdreamshypnosis.com or even better, follow/drop me a message on Twitter @British_Hypno – even if it is just to say hi 🙂
Millions of people around the world have enjoyed experiencing hypnotic trance. Â The interesting thing (and the part that makes it so hard to quantify) is that by its very nature, the experience is subjective. Â The way you experience trance may be different to the way that those other millions of people have experienced trance, purely by virtue of the fact that it is a subjective experience.
I appreciate that thinking about the meaning and potential implications surrounding subjective experiences as opposed to objective experiences can at times appear to be overly complicated, but as a lover of philosophy I have spent many hours mulling over just what it means.  After all, subjectivity is defined as the opposite of objectivity, is it not?  Well, what if I told you that the term “objective” originally meant “in the mind”?  After all, the object of one’s hopes, fears, desires, etc, lie in the mind rather than reality, don’t they?  Nowadays, however, use of the term “objective” usually refers to facts relating to the physical, material world and “subjectivity” refers to perceptions “in the mind of the subject”.  A subject is the thinker of thoughts, the haver of experiences, if you will.
You can then break down truth’s in to both objective and subjective (for those who are avid lovers of philosophy, I recommend delving into the works of Locke, Descartes and Galileo among others for more in-depth information on this subject).  Objective truths are defined as external – those truths that exist regardless of whether there is any conscious mind around to perceive them.  For example, the world existed for millions of years before its existence was consciously appreciated.  Objective truths exist and are true irrespective of what is considered by any subject who is thinking about the truth.
Just to complicate matters, however, philosophers have identified a second category…that there are truths relating to particular phenomena which in some way require perception and depend on subjects being able to perceive and think about the things which these truths are about. Â Some truths have both objective and subjective (more formally known as primary and secondary) qualities. Â Objective/primary qualities could refer to the size or shape of a particular object – these would exist regardless of whether there was a conscious mind to observe/think about them. Â Subjective/secondary qualities such as colours, smells, tastes, etc would not exist if our conscious minds were not there to experience them.
How does this relate to hypnotic trance?  Well, as trance is a subjective state you can only truly know that it exists once you have experienced it for yourself.  This doesn’t mean that the phenomena doesn’t exist until you have experienced it – it simply means that you cannot be sure of its existence (in the same way you would be able to with an objective truth, which is obvious for all to see) until you have personally experienced it.  In other words the only way you can know trance is to consciously experience it yourself.
Frank Jackson, an Australian philosopher designed a “knowledge argument” which illustrates the idea well.  It presupposes the existence of a woman called Mary, who understands all the physical facts – including those relating to the neural basis of human colour vision – without ever having seen the colour red.  If Mary saw the colour red, then she couldn’t help but be surprised because it is only at this point that she can actually learn to see the colour red.  Since she already knew all about all the physical facts before understanding what it is like to see the colour red, this must mean that knowing what it is like to see it must be knowing something that is non-physical.   If we translate this to hypnosis, you can read all you want about hypnosis, the theories and techniques, however you won’t truly know what trance feels like until you actually experience it for yourself.
Exploring this field further, you can dive down the rabbit hole into neurophilosophy of consciousness and what it means to be conscious, but I think I will save that particular mental journey for another day!
My intention with this article was simply to get you thinking…to think about how we know what we know, how can we learn what we know and what are the implications?  It’s a brief and condensed introduction intended to allow your mind to embrace abstract thoughts and begin to toy with interesting philosophical questions relating to the journey and experience of hypnosis.
I would love to hear your thoughts.
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