The Importance of Trust in Hypnosis
Trust is a key issue in hypnosis. Taking the time to cultivate a solid relationship with a hypnotist based upon mutual understanding, trust and confidence is worth its weight in gold. Trance is, after all, not a binary state. You’re not either in or out of trance – it’s not that black and white. There are levels…gradients. My own personal view is that for many, the deeper and more profound hypnotic states can (and should) only be accessed by working with a hypnotist who you have built a rapport with, and sense of trust. To be able to surrender yourself that completely, to let go that deeply…that takes confidence.
Think of it like the exercise where you are asked to fall backwards and allow someone to catch you. The experience would be very different if you were expecting a stranger to catch you, than if it were someone you implicitly trusted, wouldn’t it? I’m not even sure if the issue is related necessarily to perceived vulnerability…a lot of people assume that it is, but the reality is you’re often more in control of yourself in trance than out of it – your mind is sharper and more focused…it’s simply your body which is more relaxed. I feel that the assumption that allowing someone to hypnotise you is borne of the misconception that you are “controlled” by the hypnotist. Whilst you most certainly can be controlled by a hypnotist, you first have to consciously choose to give them that power over you. You have to have control in the first place to be able to surrender it. I do think the assumption of potential vulnerability plays a part, but to my mind the main issue at play, and the reason why you need a hypnotist you trust is because you want someone there who you trust to be able to support you.
You are already capable of trancing naturally – it’s an inherent skill you already possess. But the journey in to trance can be an unfamiliar one if you are not used to it and it is the hypnotist’s job to act as your guide – to teach you how to recognise the signposts your mind and body offers up to let you know that you are on the right path and to keep going (breathing slowing, mind clearing, etc).
You want to know that the person guiding you has your best interests at heart, that you’re working toward a common goal and that they are there to help and support you if you run into anything untoward. Hypnosis is totally safe but it can be an incredibly profound experience and for some people that can be overwhelming at first, especially if you are new to it. Having someone there to help ground you and reassure you, as well as to help you discover and explore new facts of trance…that can be an incredible experience.
Being able to trust the person hypnotising you, knowing that they won’t lead you astray or attempt to lead you into territory that you are unfamiliar with – that counts for a lot. So – how do you build trust? It takes time. Do your research – read all you can about the hypnotists you’re interested in. Check out their websites, listen to free recordings (with caution) so that you can get a sense of their style and their strengths and whether you feel they work for you. Once you’ve narrowed down the list, talk to them. Any good hypnotherapist worth their salt will be happy to answer any questions you have, so ask as many as you need to put your mind at ease. Building trust is a process it’s not something to be rushed into, but it is well worth the investment.
As well as trusting the hypnotist, however, you also have to trust yourself and recognise that the status quo is that you are in control. No one can take control away from you without your consent, even in trance. As I said before, you have to have control to be able to submit it to someone else (if you choose to – it’s not a necessity for being able to enjoy trance). That’s why I have recorded “The Art of Control” to share with you. It’s a recording designed to remind you that until you decide otherwise, you are in control. I hope you enjoy it and find it useful and I would love to hear your feedback.