Disclaimer: Before you start reading please bear in mind that when i started writing, the article below was not the article I had intended to write…what you see below is simply the result of free-flowing inspiration, borne of a desire to share with you what I do, how I do it and why. From a literary perspective it is not perfect – it may not “flow” as pleasantly as it should, but it is a good reflection of what it is. A genuine, raw, naked (metaphorically speaking) insight into my mind and how I work. I am flawed, I don’t always think or behave logically, but I am passionate – I genuinely love what I do and I really hope that passion comes across in what you read below. Also, FYI – some of the themes discussed below are of an adult nature, so if you are under 18 or of a sensitive disposition then please stop reading now and direct your attention elsewhere. That is all 🙂
I have always worked one-on-one with people and taken great delight in tailoring my approach to their unique circumstances. The medium may change – working face to face, over the phone, via text, etc, but the unique, individualised approach always remained consistent. I love the flexibility and creativity…how it encourages me to think on my feet and keep my mind sharp.
Working this way is a skill which took a number of years to hone…for the longest time after I started I merely danced around variations of the progressive muscle relaxation technique, initially only adapting it as required and preferring to stay on safe ground. It was simple, straightforward and effective but the approach lacked the originality and creativity which I craved and it was this desire that led me to push myself and develop my own unique style. I studied people, I took risks and most importantly I learned.
Of course, the more I learned, the more confident I became and my inductions became more imaginative and creative as a result. I became less afraid to try new things…to experiment and to see where paths would lead and what I would discover. Experimenting became fun, and I would challenge myself to regularly create new inductions on the spot. These proved to be immensely fun and also incredibly effective. Sometimes too effective in fact. There were instances where I unintentionally managed to hypnotise people just by talking to them (the slowed speech, distant gaze and increased compliance to suggestions are all big giveaways!), but as someone who is emphatically focused on ethics, this unintentional hypnosis made me very uncomfortable. As a result I have been much more careful to consider my words around people who I feel may be particularly talented at enjoying trance.
I developed a knack for being able to work with people who, for whatever reason believed that they would struggle to enjoy trance (or already had). I got a real kick out of hypnotising sceptics and absolutely loved seeing the look of surprise on their faces when they realised it had worked – they had been hypnotised! I also worked with people who were curious about hypnosis but had never tried it. Again, the look of surprise and wonderment as they tried to wrap their minds around what had happened, as well as the pleasure which spilled over even after the trance was finished…they loved it, and I loved the fact that I had been able to unlock that world for them.
Perhaps the most rewarding people to work with, however, were those that had attempted hypnosis, but had, for whatever reason, struggled. Many of them believed hypnosis worked. They just didn’t believe it would work for them. Man, the excuses I heard. “I can’t be hypnotised”. “Do you want to be?”, I’d ask them. “Yes, of course”, would come the reply. “But I can’t. People have already tried and they couldn’t do it”. At this point I smile and ask them three simple questions:
- Do you want to be hypnotised?
- Are you capable of following simple instructions?
- Will you give me honest feedback about what you’re experiencing so that I can tailor my approach specifically to you (after all, I have a lot of tools in my toolbox but they’re not all going to be the right fit).
If I get a “yes” to all three questions then I can, with confidence (a confidence borne from experience, I might add!) that I can hypnotise them. I’ll admit, my confidence is typically initially met with a little scepticism, but I know something they don’t – I am damn good at what I do and once I start using my hypnotic voice then trance is pretty much inevitable.
What typically follows is an interesting session – some realise they’re going under, some don’t realise until it’s too late…it doesn’t matter. I will have discussed with them beforehand what they are looking to get out of a session, what to expect…afterwards they’re usually still basking in the pleasurable afterglow of the trance experience, simultaneously pleased and perplexed at what happened and how.
Days or weeks pass and I get excited messages – “it’s worked”, they tell me in reference to the solution we worked on in trance to help them resolve whatever problem they had been encountering. I worked on helping people with everything from insomnia to erectile dysfunction.
Simultaneously, I also dabbled in recreational and erotic hypnosis. It was a new kind of exploration for me and I enjoyed it. Turns out the guys (and yes, it was mostly men I worked with) also enjoyed it. Those that didn’t already know were amazed to discover that yes, it is possible to experience hands-free orgasms, although I do still laugh when I think about one guy who got genuinely mad that I hadn’t pre-warned him that he would cum more than usual (something which seems to be a fairly standard side effect of my erotic hypnosis sessions), and berated me for not warning him about the additional mess he would have to clean up. I am happy to report that he was a one-off and the general consensus has been pleasant surprise and appreciation of the side-effect.
My hypnosis journey has been somewhat of a meandering one. I do now intend to work professionally, and as such have paid-for recordings, but because my primary driver is my passion for hypnosis I am also making sure I focus on delivering free recordings, and offering insightful and interesting material where I can. The key is finding the balance – the more I earn from hypnosis, the more time I am able to dedicate to it. Being able to have that time to focus on what I am passionate is what drives me. Bottom line is, corny as it sounds I love being able to help people. Whether that is to help them overcome a problem in their life or enjoy a mindblowing orgasm is irrelevant to me – the fact is hypnosis is by far and away the most effective tool I have found to date to allow me to be able to do this. Plus it has the side effect of making the people you’re working with feel awesome. I mean, seriously – what’s not to love?
In summary, I hope this article has given you a big of an insight into me…into how I work, what I do and why. Like many things on my hypnosis journey I started out with the intention of writing something totally different (this article was meant to be an explanation of how I devise and compose hypnosis scripts to record – that article will, hopefully, be coming soon folks, so keep an eye out!). As such, it has turned into somewhat of a meander through my journey….thoughts thrown down like paint on a canvas. I can only hope that my “masterpiece” makes sense to you. If it doesn’t, or if you have any questions you can always get in touch with me by dropping me an email at info@queenofdreamshypnosis.com or even better, follow/drop me a message on Twitter @British_Hypno – even if it is just to say hi 🙂
