by queenofdreams | Aug 27, 2018 | Fetish, Hypnosis, Uncategorized
An incredibly important, yet often overlooked aspect to enjoying erotic hypnosis involves giving careful and (arguably more importantly) honest consideration to what exactly it is you want to get out of the experience.
You could be indulging in erotic hypnosis for any number of reasons – curiosity, indulging a fetish/kink, exploring submission. These are all perfectly reasonable and legitimate reasons. You may even not be sure yet exactly what it is you do want from the experience. That’s okay, too.
What is vitally important, however, is that you are honest with yourself and your hypnotist. Honesty gives you a more genuine experience and allows your hypnotist to better tailor your experience to what you want.
I cannot begin to tell you the number of times I have had clients tell me that their primary goal is submission – they want to submit to me and see hypnosis as a tool for deepening their submissive desires. Fantastic – except when it’s not what you actually want, and instead your genuine intention is to play out a particular fantasy or kink. Playing out a fantasy or indulging in a kink isn’t inherently wrong in any way (I can’t begin to emphasize this enough), but misleading your hypnotist is. It can lead to misunderstandings and potentially uncomfortable scenarios where the hypnotists suggestions don’t correlate with what you wanted. The hypnotist is working on the basis of you wanting to embrace genuine submission and you are working on the basis of playing out a specific fantasy you have.
Submission is just that – choosing to submit to the will/instruction of another individual who you trust and respect. Playing out a fantasy is selfish (and I don’t imply this in a negative way). You’re focusing on your own needs and desires rather than those of the person you are “submitting” to. Genuine submission is selfless – your satisfaction comes from serving and pleasing the person you have chosen to submit to.
We all deserve to have our needs met (assuming they’re legal/don’t harm others and all other common sense disclaimers that may apply), and personally speaking as long as you’re honest with me about what you want I am often happy to oblige. I am a big fan of pleasure and have built a career around making fantasies reality. It’s all good. Just don’t mislead me by telling me one thing when you mean/actually want something else as this kind of miscommunication can and does have consequences. It can make situations uncomfortable when we’re not both on the same page and neither of us want that, do we?
If you’re not entirely sure what you want – tell me. It’s okay. We can work it out together. Open, honest communication is absolutely essential to a healthy, fun and fulfilling experience. It may be that you think you want to embrace submission but after dipping your toe in the water you find that actually you’re more attracted to the kink aspect and you don’t like the commitment of genuine submission. Or perhaps you initially tell me that this is primarily a kink for you and then down the line you discover it’s become more and you really want to take things to the next level and genuinely submit and surrender to me and my control.
All these scenarios are fine as long as you are honest. I know I keep hammering on about this, but it is so vitally important. Honesty and communication are the foundations upon which a strong, healthy dynamic is built. I am primarily an erotic hypnotist – I also include Domme elements with some clients. This means I can adapt depending on what needs/desires you communicate to me.
Being honest with me and yourself will allow allow you to enjoy a more immersive, fulfilling experience. Take time. Think about what you want. Tell me. Simple!
What opinions do you have on this topic? Have you spent a lot of time really thinking about what it is you want? I want you to share your thoughts in the comments below.
by queenofdreams | Aug 20, 2018 | Hypnosis, Uncategorized
The longer I’ve been involved in the hypno-kink scene (hypnoDomme, erotic hypnosis, etc) the more painfully aware I become of how some guys seem to become so absorbed in their own kink and desires that they forget that the person they’re dealing with is a living, breathing human being and not simply some ethereal extension of their fantasies and desires.
I appreciate that it can get easy to get carried away as you indulge your mind and body and embrace the pleasures of what can be a truly transformative experience, but I also feel that it is appropriate not to lose sight of the fact that the person you’re interacting with is just that – a person. We may be excellent at what we do (I know I am, and I am proud of that fact – it’s the result of years of effort and practice on my part), but just because this is a transactional experience and you are paying for our time and expertise, it in no way entitles you to behave in a rude or impolite manner.
Just to clarify – not all clients are rude. Many of my clients are absolutely wonderful and I appreciate the mutual respect that exists. Some, however, believe that as they are paying for a service that means they are entitled to treat the person delivering the service in any way they want – rules and manners go out the window and are replaced with selfishness and poor conduct. Demands are made with no thought to appropriate conduct or respect. The “I’m paying you so I can say/treat you how I want” mentality takes over.
Let’s get one thing straight – such behavior is rude, inappropriate and will not be tolerated. If you try to behave that way with me I will decline to work with you. I absolutely love hypnosis and I love what I do. I actively encourage people to communicate their desires with me – but mutual respect is paramount. Yes, I am a hypnotist but I am also a human being. I have independent thoughts and feelings. I do what I do because I love it, but I also do it on my terms.
Those of you who know me already know that I go out of my way to be friendly and approachable. I do what I can to “give back” to the hypno community and I am happy to answer hypnosis related questions. Trance is an amazing experience and I want as many people as possible to be able to enjoy it – it’s one reason why I ensure my rates for Skype sessions are so reasonable. Yes, I could charge a lot more but I want to remain accessible.
I go out of my way to make trance a positive experience for people but the amount of disrespect I (and other hypnotists) receive on a daily basis is depressing. The all too common assumption that we somehow exist solely for your entertainment, or that if we love what we do then why don’t we do it for free? Making excessive demands of our time without paying for it (as I said before, I am happy to help but there are limits – please be mindful and respectful of my time and its value. Happy to answer the odd question but multiple queries which require time to respond to is not okay – that is time I could be spending earning money. We all have bills to pay, after all).
It doesn’t take much to show basic respect and decency. To show appreciation for your hypnotist and their work. Yes, we may love what we do (I know I do), but unless I win the lottery I simply cannot afford to offer my services for free and really do not appreciate people trying to take advantage of my good nature. I am sure other hypnotists feel the same way. I am a hypnotist but I am also a person. An individual. I think, I feel and yes, I get upset when I feel that people are being disrespectful and/or trying to take advantage.
You want to earn respect from someone? Give them respect. Show them you are worthy of their time by being a decent human being. It doesn’t take much. Basic manners go a long way. As a hypnotist I am to give all my clients a first rate experience. As a person I am much more likely to want to invest my time and energy into people who are kind, polite and respectful. You reap what you sow. You want a better connection with your hypnotist? Think about how you can be a better person. What you can do to be better for them and it will come back to you tenfold. Just ask any of my good boys. A good, solid relationship with an exceptional hypnotist can be a positive, transformative experience in your life but it doesn’t happen overnight. It takes time, consideration and investment. Give and ye shall receive.
by queenofdreams | Oct 5, 2017 | Uncategorized
Hands-free orgasms are like the holy grail of erotic hypnosis. Many dream of them and a fair proportion assume it’s simply a fantasy. Well, let me make your fantasy a reality. I regularly use orgasm triggers and they work exceptionally well. Don’t believe me? Take a look for yourself (and be a good boy and leave a comment afterwards):
by queenofdreams | Oct 2, 2017 | Uncategorized
So, the first video I shared from a Skype session with a wonderful client of mine has proved to be exceptionally popular. I think it’s an excellent way for you to have an insight into the experience of live Skype sessions and what to expect. Part of any session with me includes the use of post-hypnotic triggers. As you saw a pendant induction in the first video, I figured it would be fun to share what a post-hypnotic trigger to re-induce trance would look like and also an idea of how pleasurable my “good boy” trigger feels. Please do share your comments below – more comments I receive, the more likely I will be to share another video! 😉
by queenofdreams | Sep 8, 2017 | Uncategorized
I don’t know if you’ve ever heard of Maya Angelou – if you haven’t, I recommend researching her. A phenomenal and inspirational woman.
I’ve recorded one of her poems as a tribute to her and in recognition of her inspiration to all about how powerful women are. Whether you know a woman or are one – this poem is a recognition of precisely how special you/we are.
by queenofdreams | Aug 13, 2017 | Uncategorized
Okay – this is a question I get asked a lot in various different ways. For example: what makes a good trance subject? How do you know someone is a good trance subject? What do you look for in a trance subject? (and various other iterations).
I know how I would answer this, and in a moment that’s just what I will do but I want to preface this by saying that by and large it is subjective if you’re looking at it from the hypnotist’s perspective (which, for the purposes of this blog, I am).
Objectively, to my mind, there is no such thing as a bad subject. Subjectively, however, from a hypnotist’s point of view, if they struggle to trance someone, they may perceive the subject as a bad hypnosis subject. It doesn’t mean they are, it simply means that due to the hypnotist’s own limitations that’s their perception.
I guess the way I would choose to describe it is to liken it to a student who is being taught a particular subject. If the student applies themselves but still struggles, who is at fault? The student or the teacher. The student is not at fault – they are applying themselves but they simply don’t understand where the teacher is coming from. The teacher is also not necessarily at fault – they’re used to teaching their subject a certain way and most students understand them. The fault exists, however, if the teacher then tries to blame the student for their poor performance rather than recognising that their style of teaching doesn’t make sense to the student. If blame is allocated then to my mind, that’s where the fault occurs.
I’ve had so many clients come to me and say they have either assumed or been told that they are a “bad” subject because the hypnotist struggled to hypnotise them. It’s a sad but all too common occurrence and the first thing I do is reassure the client that they are not a bad subject. All that’s happened is they haven’t yet found a hypnotist whose style resonates with them. So they learn in a different way? So what? It doesn’t make them a bad subject, but to my mind, any hypnotist that tries to claim they are is a poor hypnotist who doesn’t recognise their own shortcomings. No one, single induction will work on 100% of people. A good hypnotist will have a range of tools in their toolbox and a thorough understanding of when and how they can be applied to different situations.
So what do I say when I get asked what makes a good hypnosis/trance subject? My answer is simply an open mind, honest communication and a willingness to engage with the process. I don’t suggest that you need to be “good” at trance because that statement is meaningless. Einstein was, in his early career, not considered to be good at maths (I know, right?) but look at what he achieved. And “good” is subjective. Some people may say “good” is an experienced subject who they can trance easily whilst others may think a “good” subject is one who will challenge them and make them work to help the client obtain the trance, encouraging them to explore and utilise new techniques.
For my part, as long as you’re open minded, communicate with me and engage then I can be as sure as I can be that you are an amazing subject and that we will both have a great time. Plus – I’ve yet to be proved wrong on that front (though I guess I could be jinxing it by saying it! haha).
I absolutely love what I do (I cannot convey that enough) and part of what I love is showing you what you are capable of. You are a great subject and you’re capable of amazing, incredible and wonderful things. All I ask for is the opportunity to show you!
