by queenofdreams | Jan 16, 2020 | Hypnosis, Uncategorized
This is somewhat of a “how long is a piece of string?” question as there are many factors that can affect how long the effects of a trigger last.
Some of these can include:
- The skill of the hypnotist who implants the trigger
- The willingness of the subject to accept the trigger/how comfortable they are with the trigger
- How easily the trigger can be integrated into day to day life (e.g. if it is simple/beneficial and can be used regularly then it may well last longer than a strongly sexual trigger that the subject is not entirely sure about and can only be used in very particular situations.
Personally speaking I have one hypnosis subject who I tranced many years ago (before becoming professional). I gave him a fun trigger to have a pleasurable response upon seeing a particular candy bar. Years later (approx 2-3 years after I had ceased hypnotising him ) he sent me a message to say that the trigger was still as effective as ever. More recently I have had clients come to me for a live session after a lapse of a few months and been surprised at how effective the triggers I gave them in previous session/s still are.
As a hypnotist, if you want a trigger to be effective and to last then you need the clients subconscious to be on board with what you’re asking – after all, it will be the subconscious mind who will be implementing the response to the trigger.
Firstly, keep the trigger simple – don’t make it overly complex or with multiple steps to take effect. Simple is effective and easy to implement. Secondly, allow the trigger to be pleasurable. We all want to enjoy pleasure, right? So give your subject a new opportunity to enjoy pleasure with the trigger. This can be sexual or non-sexual pleasure (there’s a myriad of different types of pleasure you can make use of), but if you are aiming for sexual pleasure for the love of god think very carefully about when/how the trigger will be implemented. You don’t want your subject to be accidentally triggered at an inappropriate moment. This is one of the reasons why almost all the triggers I give my subjects only work when I say them. For those that aren’t, I ensure that I word the instructions for the trigger in such a way that there is no way they will cause problems and/or embarrassment. Typically a statement along the lines of the client enjoying the trigger only when appropriate to do so. If saying something like this make sure that you have a good understanding of what the client considers to be appropriate. If in doubt, don’t give them the trigger.
by queenofdreams | Oct 18, 2019 | Hypnosis
We’ve all seen those stage hypnosis shows where people seem to be tranced instantly and deeply with just a single word and made to do all sorts of weird and wonderful things. Looks impressive, doesn’t it?
Of course, what they don’t tell you is that the subjects are either faking it or have been carefully selected by the hypnotist because they are naturally highly susceptible to suggestion. Stage hypnosis is like the porn of the hypnosis world – showy and overhyped. Yes it *could* happen in normal day to day life but the odds are astronomical. hypnosis can be “real” but that doesn’t necessarily make it realistic.
Full disclosure – I am not a big fan of stage hypnosis (I know, surprising, right? Haha). I find it’s often exploitative and the potential lack of consent makes me uncomfortable (for those rare somnambulists who are exceptionally susceptible to trance they may not be able to consciously consent to the request to go up on stage, for example).
Stage hypnosis, like porn, has its place. It’s showy and entertaining. It can be exciting to watch, sure, but it can also give unrealistic expectations of what to expect, which can be very unhelpful when trying to achieve your goal.
Just as there are arguments to be made that porn leaves open the door for unrealistic expectations of how men and women should behave and what sex should look/feel like, stage hypnosis does the same. It makes it look as if everyone should be able to trance instantly, that hypnosis is big and showy and dramatic.
More negatively, it can also scare people. They may be worried that they would/could be made to embarrass themselves and/or be forced to do something that they are not comfortable with. This is not true, but if you don’t understand hypnosis and how it works and stage hypnosis is your only experience then it is easy for incorrect inferences to be made.
To use a porn parallel, I’ve heard it said that porn gives women an unrealistic expectation of how quickly a plumber will attend a call out and come to their house. Likewise if watching porn is your only experience of sex you’re going to have a pretty warped view of how things should play out.
Porn and stage hypnosis are entertainment. They can be fun and enjoyable but they don’t accurately reflect the depth of potential and possibilities that exist, nor the richness of the actual reality.
If not appreciated for the entertainment they are then both can also lead to unrealistic expectations which can have negative impacts and knock-on effects.
Having said all that, this doesn’t mean that what you see in stage hypnosis isn’t achievable. Given time and a hypnotist you trust many of the triggers, etc, you see played out on stage can be recreated and enjoyed. What’s important is to realise that this doesn’t happen instantly. You need to learn to run before you can walk, so enjoy the journey and enjoy the entertainment for what it is.
by queenofdreams | Jun 25, 2019 | Fun/Memorable Hypnosis Sessions, Hypnosis, Uncategorized
Whilst it’s true to say that I operate primarily as an erotic hypnotist rather than a hypnoDomme (meaning the Dominant/submissive [D/s] dynamic is optional), I do enjoy truly special relationships with some very good boys. A genuine relationship takes time to establish as trust and mutual understanding must be given the opportunity to evolve and flourish, but the results can be truly incredible.
As a case in point, I enjoyed a lovely Skype hypnosis session (find more info here) earlier today with a very good boy who I have known and interacted with for a good while. We enjoy a strong D/s dynamic and he has found a great deal of comfort, reassurance and pleasure in choosing to surrender to my control. I take great pride in empowering my submissive boys – encouraging them to be the best version of themselves that they possibly can be, and I love watching my boys gain confidence through submission and truly shine.
In the Skype hypnosis session we enjoyed today, we tried a little experiment. I put him into trance and had him write a note for his conscious mind. His conscious mind would have no recollection of writing the note, nor any input into its contents. I gave no guidance or suggestions regarding what to write – the content of the note was entirely up to his subconscious mind to share.
The results ended up being so beautiful and eloquent I immediately asked my boy if he would mind me (anonymously) sharing it and he kindly agreed.
Here it is:
“This butterfly is auxillary, it flutters up, and shows you something.
The benefits of being owned are numerous and inobvious. There is the level of relaxation it can bring, the peace of mind, the feelings of focus and devotion.
The incomprenensible depth of pleasure.
The sensual pleasure of exploring yourself, knowing your Mistress is exploring with you and that the depths you feel are exposed to her control, that your pleasure is her pleasure, that you can be consumed and utterly give yourself to her power.
That you can appreciate the beauty of her voice, her body and her mind, her will, her power overwhelming you with bliss, your consciousness overwhelmed and subject to her power, her beautiful power and strength, and grip.
The pleasure of relinquishment, of feeling her will at your core, of feeling her words as your own thoughts, of her words becoming your own mind.
The freedom of not having to think, to worry, to strategize, but just to obey what is given to you as a sensual gift”.
Such a beautifully written, eloquent expression of his experience of submission to me. Of being owned by me. I wanted to share it with you to give you a glimpse into the possibilities that exist in submission to me…the potential for pleasure and personal growth.
Every dynamic is different – every boy chooses to express their submission in different ways – but submission is a gift, and there is pleasure to be had in both gifting yourself through submission to a Domme you trust as well as reaping the benefits of submission and surrender.
I hope you’ve enjoyed this glimpse into the possibilities.
Thoughts? Opinion? Questions? Please share by leaving a comment (or two) below. Thank you.
by queenofdreams | Apr 18, 2019 | Hypnosis, Uncategorized
The hypnosis experience can be a surprisingly intense one. Immersive in ways it can be difficult to comprehend until you’ve lived it. Experienced it first hand. Being in trance….feeling and embracing the possibilities is incredible and transformative but such pleasures and the expansiveness of the experience can also be overwhelming. Especially if you’re also including additional emotional elements such as submission and/or realisation of additional fantasies and desires.
Hypnosis can take you by surprise. Its effects can feel temporarily overwhelming and that’s okay. This is why I always encourage open and honest communication as well as engaging in trance with a hypnotist you trust. Being able to talk through your feelings and emotions openly and honestly, confident in receiving reassurance and support is very important.
Engaging with someone you trust and feel safe with is grounding. It can help you navigate and cope with what can feel like a very vulnerable situation. Your hypnotist should be an anchor. They should focus and ground you, offering a safe space to explore the infinite possibilities hypnosis offers. I appreciate the pull of the temptation to dive right in. To abandon yourself to the experience. To completely give yourself a favor, no holds barred. The potential is intoxicating. possibilities are alluring and addictive. Once your mind and body get a taste what hypnosis feels like, it’s like a gateway drug. You want more. You want to take the next step, to explore and discover and to drink in the new possibilities. That excitement and anticipation perfectly reasonable and understandable. I’ve been practicing hypnosis for years. I know exactly how potentially addictive cassia can be. How exciting the possibilities are, and how easy it is to crave more.
It’’s for these reasons but I always recommend researching, taking time understand who it is it will be playing with your mind encouraging your explorations, guiding you in what can be one of the most pleasurable experiences that you will ever enjoy. Because to be able to fully enjoy and appreciate the pleasure, you have to feel safe in the environment you’re exploring. This involves enabling and establishing a level of trust with the hypnotist you are working with, which in turn opens doors to even more incredible pleasure and possibility. Once you trust them, once you understand they have your best interest at heart, you’re able to let go and embrace the experience of hypnosis in an entirely new and Incredibly powerful way.
Establishing trust and communication means it in those moments when you feel overwhelmed, when things just become too much, you are secure in the knowledge that you can communicate any fears,worries or concerns these will be listened to and acknowledged by your hypnotist. they can reassure you, offer explanations and tailor your hypnotic experience to ensure that it is as beneficial and pleasurable as possible.
