by queenofdreams | Apr 18, 2019 | Hypnosis, Uncategorized
The hypnosis experience can be a surprisingly intense one. Immersive in ways it can be difficult to comprehend until you’ve lived it. Experienced it first hand. Being in trance….feeling and embracing the possibilities is incredible and transformative but such pleasures and the expansiveness of the experience can also be overwhelming. Especially if you’re also including additional emotional elements such as submission and/or realisation of additional fantasies and desires.
Hypnosis can take you by surprise. Its effects can feel temporarily overwhelming and that’s okay. This is why I always encourage open and honest communication as well as engaging in trance with a hypnotist you trust. Being able to talk through your feelings and emotions openly and honestly, confident in receiving reassurance and support is very important.
Engaging with someone you trust and feel safe with is grounding. It can help you navigate and cope with what can feel like a very vulnerable situation. Your hypnotist should be an anchor. They should focus and ground you, offering a safe space to explore the infinite possibilities hypnosis offers. I appreciate the pull of the temptation to dive right in. To abandon yourself to the experience. To completely give yourself a favor, no holds barred. The potential is intoxicating. possibilities are alluring and addictive. Once your mind and body get a taste what hypnosis feels like, it’s like a gateway drug. You want more. You want to take the next step, to explore and discover and to drink in the new possibilities. That excitement and anticipation perfectly reasonable and understandable. I’ve been practicing hypnosis for years. I know exactly how potentially addictive cassia can be. How exciting the possibilities are, and how easy it is to crave more.
It’’s for these reasons but I always recommend researching, taking time understand who it is it will be playing with your mind encouraging your explorations, guiding you in what can be one of the most pleasurable experiences that you will ever enjoy. Because to be able to fully enjoy and appreciate the pleasure, you have to feel safe in the environment you’re exploring. This involves enabling and establishing a level of trust with the hypnotist you are working with, which in turn opens doors to even more incredible pleasure and possibility. Once you trust them, once you understand they have your best interest at heart, you’re able to let go and embrace the experience of hypnosis in an entirely new and Incredibly powerful way.
Establishing trust and communication means it in those moments when you feel overwhelmed, when things just become too much, you are secure in the knowledge that you can communicate any fears,worries or concerns these will be listened to and acknowledged by your hypnotist. they can reassure you, offer explanations and tailor your hypnotic experience to ensure that it is as beneficial and pleasurable as possible.
by queenofdreams | Dec 27, 2018 | Hypnosis, Uncategorized
If you’re reading this it is because you are interested in hypnosis. How often are you reminded of what a great subject you are, though? Even if you’ve previously struggled to trance this does not make you a bad subject – far from it! Hypnosis inductions are like keys and your mind is the lock – not every key will fit every lock. This doesn’t mean that the key or the lock are faulty – it simply means that particular key doesn’t fit that particular lock. Find the right technique/key and it will unlock your mind. Keep persevering and you will be rewarded.
In the meantime, here are 5 reasons why you are a great hypnosis subject:
- Passion
- Genuine interest
- Open minded – this is a niche and you’ve decided to explore what it has to offer.
- You’re doing this for yourself and your wellbeing – we all need to be a little selfish sometimes and erotic hypnosis (and hypnosis in general) is a fantastic way to embrace pleasure.
- You’re learning to listen – an undervalued skill in a society where we spend most of our time talking rather than really listening. Hypnosis helps you cultivate this skill to become a better hypnosis subject and a better person in general.
What do you feel makes you an excellent hypnosis subject? I would love to hear your thoughts. Please share them below.
by queenofdreams | Nov 27, 2018 | Hypnosis, Uncategorized
I wanted to give you all a “peek behind the curtain” as it were. Hypnosis may seem magical (and in many ways it is), but it isn’t magic. You don’t need to believe in it for it to work (just ask the *many* skeptics I’ve tranced over the years). If anything being better informed can allow you to relax and enjoy the experience more. So – I’ve listed some common induction techniques (techniques that induce trance) with explanations of how they work and pros and cons.
This list is compiled through a combination of personal experience and research. I don’t personally use many of these techniques for various reasons (e.g. I specialise in working with analytical people many of whom would find a relaxation induction boring and uneffective, and the handshake technique I find ethically dubious so have deliberately avoided it) but they are all useful to know. I primarily use a conversational induction (I will be writing a separate blog about this so keep an eye out) as a base and then “freestyle”, tailoring my approach specifically to the individual I am working with. I can incorporate standard techniques or develop new ones on the fly based on my years of experience and understanding of how the underpinning principles of hypnosis work and how I can use them to my advantage. It’s liberating, great fun, and best of all – very effective!
1. Relaxation
This is a simple, straightforward and commonly used technique where the hypnotist encourages the subject to relax, often via a variation of the “progressive relaxation induction” which is basically exactly what it sounds like. Often the hypnotist will suggest that the subject relaxes each part of their body independently – talking them through systematically relaxing their head, jaw, shoulders…and so on and so forth until every part of their body is relaxed. Hypnotists often suggest that subjects relax their minds and try not to think.
Pros: Very popular technique that works well with the majority of people. Gentle and unrushed.
Cons: Doesn’t work well with analytical people as they tend to find it boring and predictable. Can take a long time.
- Handshake Technique
This rapid induction technique was made famous by Milton Erikson. It uses a “pattern interrupt” technique by disrupting what is considered a common social norm (in this case a handshake). The idea is that by interrupting a social action so common it’s practically automatic/muscle memory (usually by tugging the subjects hand as they reach out to shake hands), the subconscious is shocked/knocked off balance and momentarily more vulnerable/open to suggestion, giving the hypnotist an opening to give suggestions to direct the mind in the desired direction (e.g. a suggestion issued in a commanding voice to trance, followed up with softer repetitive guidance and reassurance).
Pros: Works incredibly quickly; very dramatic so great for performances.
Cons: Some hypnotists attempt without obtaining prior consent; the “shock” of the induction can be uncomfortable for some people.
- Visualisation
This is another commonly used technique for inductions. The idea is that you get the client to visualise a safe, peaceful place and focus on the details. Some hypnotists will use guided imagery to reinforce the trance – e.g. descending a staircase. Typically the hypnotist will describe the scenario that the subject is to imagine (e.g. a beach, walking through a forest, floating in a sea…whatever it is) and the subject is expected to follow along and immerse themselves in the visualisation. The idea is that the subject will become more relaxed and will begin to enter trance as they follow the hypnotists guidance and immerse themselves in the scene they are being encouraged to visualise.
Pros: A gentle, relaxing technique;Easy to learn the basics from a hypnotists perspective; works well with the majority of people.
Cons: Inexperienced hypnotists can get overly confident and reliant on the technique without fully understanding or appreciating how or why it works; hypnotist could inadvertently use imagery that is uncomfortable for the client (e.g. talking about water and sinking when the client has a fear of drowning); often a boring technique for analytical people as it’s predictable and slow.
- Arm Levitation Technique
A classic Ericksonian technique. You begin by asking the client to close their eyes and then ask them to allow themselves to become aware of a difference in feeling between their arms. Some hypnotists will direct and use/incorporate visualisation techniques (e.g. “imagine a red helium balloon tied to your right arm, lifting it higher”). Others are more permissive (e.g. “I want you to allow yourself to become aware of one arm feeling lighter than the other. Allow your mind to focus on how light that arm feels. I don’t know if it is your left arm or your right arm that is feeling lighter and lighter, but I know you know which arm it is, don’t you?”). Either way, the end result is that the arm lifts. You can also incorporate the dropping of the arm as a deepener (as the arm drops you will go deeper into trance. Once your arm settles in your lap you will be deep in trance).
Pros: Technique is a good “convincer” (proof to client that they are in trance); tried and tested technique developed by a true pro.
Cons: Tricky balance for new hypnotists between being confident and over-confident; takes skill and experience to not panic if client doesn’t respond as anticipated – can catch out inexperienced hypnotists.
- Eye Fixation
The client is encouraged to focus their attention solely on a particular object/point (either asked by hypnotist to choose themselves – e.g. a particular spot on the wall – or directed to focus on something specific either static or moving). A common example would be a pocket watch. The swinging watch keeps the conscious mind occupied, leaving the conscious mind open to suggestion (there are also other techniques that can be incorporated into swinging objects that can encourage trance but I don’t want to destroy all the mystery!).
Pros: Very common technique – well known and works for a lot of people purely because they associate hypnosis with swinging watches. The power of the mind at work!; Easy to master for the hypnotist – a very simple induction that plays a lot on people’s assumptions of hypnosis and how it works.
Cons: Not enough to always appropriately engage an analytical mind; can perpetuate common misconceptions about hypnosis and how it works.
What are your thoughts on the list I’ve compiled? Any favorites? Techniques I’ve missed out? I’d love to hear what you think so share your comments below.
by queenofdreams | Sep 11, 2018 | Hypnosis, Uncategorized
I think I sort of take it for granted sometimes that hypnosis is real, genuine and effective. Because I work with it every day and see the effects first hand to me it’s simply a given. I love what I do, but I’m also aware that complacency can be an easy trap to fall into so I was pleasantly surprised when I received the following review from one of my boys after a session. Before he came to me he had been trying to trance for 20+ years.
“Last night was special. I think that, after so many years of trying to trance, I had formed (without recognizing it) the belief that hypnosis is somehow unreal. Not that it is fake — but rather that it was some mixture of just quietly though consciously accepting most of what a hypnotist says. Maybe, according to this belief, it is more like listening to a really good story, and getting caught up in the reading, but not necessarily finding oneself swept away, or responding so powerfully (and without conscious inter-mediation) to suggestions, triggers, and commands. If the story is sexy, you might cum. If it calls for a little audience participation, you might play along. But it wouldn’t be the case that you could just be dropped into a deep and infinitely submissive trance by a word or three. Your kind willingness to answer all my questions about what is and isn’t possible is helping me, I think, to re-learn what hypnosis is. Experience here is leading belief: there are the ever present feelings of submission, and my absolute and immediate responsiveness to your commands; belief is starting, finally, to catch up with reality”.
It was interesting to me that his pattern of experiences had given him the opposite perspective to mine. He saw hypnosis as a fantasy – something that could be engaged with in a roleplay capacity but nothing more. It made me think about how our experiences shape our perspectives and expectations. This boy wasn’t simply sceptical about hypnosis – he literally believed it didn’t exist. That it was a fantasy. So imagine his shock when he discovered that it is, after all, real.
I think some people think me saying that I transform fantasies into reality is a marketing ploy, but I genuinely mean what I say and those who have enjoyed live sessions with me will be able to attest to the truth of my words. Trance is real. Hypnosis is real. It works. Not every hypnotist will be able to hypnotise you effectively but that doesn’t discredit the phenomenon itself. I specialise in working with “difficult” and/or analytical subjects (basically those who have previously struggled to trance and/or been erroneously told by other hypnotists that they are somehow “bad” subjects) and yet I have a near perfect success rate (which I am very proud of, I hasten to add).
You’re skeptical? So what? It doesn’t mean I can’t hypnotise you. Hypnosis isn’t some kind of magic (though it certainly can feel magical at times). You don’t need to believe in it for it to work. You don’t even need to be relaxed. Mind going a million miles a minute? Not a problem. The fact remains: hypnosis is real. Hypnosis works. Don’t believe me? Go and check out my testimonials page. Plenty of people have taken time to confirm that not only does hypnosis work – I excel at what I do and they reap the benefits of that.
Am I being arrogant? Perhaps. I personally see it as confidence underpinned by many years of experience. I know what I am doing. I am capable of delivering results and you are able to benefit from my experience. Tried before with other hypnotists and not been successful? It doesn’t mean hypnosis doesn’t work/trance doesn’t exist. It simply means you haven’t found a hypnotist whose style works for you, yet. Research, explore – invest time and you’ll enjoy the rewards of your efforts. The potential of hypnosis is limited only by your imagination.
If you’re curious about hypnosis and have questions you can always email me at info@queenofdreamshypnosis.com
I’m friendly and more than happy to answer any queries you have. I love hypnosis and am very passionate about what I do. You deserve to enjoy the pleasure of trance and I would love to be the one to guide you on that journey of discovery.
by queenofdreams | Apr 21, 2018 | Hypnosis
The possibilities when it comes to ways to hypnotise a person are nearly limitless. I know because I have a lot of fun creating new ways to trance people, as well as tailoring existing methods to better suit individuals I am working with. So in this blog I am going to talk specifically about how I hypnotise people. My way isn’t the only way, though. Different people will have different techniques and strategies. I just thought it would be interesting to give you a little insight into how I hypnotise people, especially as I work a lot with analytical people and those who have previously struggled to trance.
If you want to understand hypnosis, however, you need to begin by understanding what it is and how it works. That includes understanding what hypnosis isn’t. There are so many misconceptions associated with hypnosis that it can be difficult to distinguish the reality from the many and varied assumptions floating around.
The most important thing to remember is that the ability to trance is natural and innate. Every time you’ve daydreamed, gotten lost in thought or driven on auto-pilot you’ve enjoyed a light trance state. The role of a hypnotist is to show you how to capitalise on this innate talent you already possess so it can be utilised to your advantage.
Some hypnotists try and pass off hypnosis as magical or mystical – or as a special power only they possess (which is nonsense). The worst will simply sit there and read from a pre-prepared script. In my (humble) opinion, such people are to be avoided. A good hypnotist won’t need a script for a live session. Their techniques should be tailored specifically to you and should be adapted based on what works for you.
The key to successfully trancing someone is to recognise, utilise and build upon their existing natural talents rather than just force your own style/script upon them. I like to use a conversational induction as a base initially as a lot of people who have sessions with me are initially nervous/excited and this gives them an opportunity to chat with me, get to know me, calm their nerves and settle into the experience. It also helps me get to know them and to understand what techniques I can employ from my vast “hypnotic toolbox” to help them enjoy trance. I can also chat to them and dispel many of the common misconceptions surrounding hypnosis – you won’t be asleep or unconscious (if anything you’ll be more self-aware and in control of yourself than usual), for example – and also give them the opportunity to ask me any questions they may have. You don’t have to be relaxed to enjoy trance, but it does help if you’re comfortable.
As I like to tell my clients, trance is actually the easiest thing in the world as you don’t have to actually “do” anything to make it happen. Your subconscious already knows what to do and all you need to do is get out of your own way and allow it to happen. As a hypnotist I see my role as a guide or a teacher, showing you how to capitalise on your natural abilities. I often use the analogy of learning a new skill…say you wanted to teach yourself to play the piano. Sure, you can teach yourself the basics but if you want to see real improvements you bring in someone to teach you. You’re still the one playing, but with appropriate guidance how you play improves.
I am there to guide and reassure. You can trance with your eyes open or your eyes closed. This is your experience. It’s unique to you. There’s no right or wrong way to “do” trance. It’s also not a binary state. So many people are focused on the idea of being in trance and achieving that state that they often miss out on the pleasure of actually going into trance and how good that feels. As I am an avid fan of pleasure in all its forms I regularly encourage people to allow themselves to be aware of and embrace the pleasurable sensations of actually going into trance. Being open to that experience helps guide you easily into deeper trance states so it’s a win-win.
Every person has their own trance journey that is unique to them. They also have unique “tells” or markers that occur at different stages. Most competent hypnotists will be aware of these and utilise them to help guide their client into trance/deeper trance. I take this one step further by actively pointing out what I notice to the person I’m working with (something most hypnotists don’t do, I presume as they like to maintain the mystical/magical aspect of trance and/or feel that withholding this information gives them more control? Who knows?). I refer to this as signposting the trance experience. The markers differ for each person – they’re like a unique fingerprint. Some people’s breathing deepens and slows…some people blink more and/or their eyes close, etc, etc. Sometimes people are aware that this is happening, sometimes not, but by bringing it to their attention they will be able to recognise their own unique markers which can act as “touch points”, reassuring them of the stage they’re at what what to expect when they trance again in the future.
Some signals are obvious, some are incredibly subtle but years of experience have taught me how to identify and work with my client’s natural abilities. I’ve developed a confidence borne of experience which definitely helps – as does the fact that I am comfortable switching things up and adapting to my clients needs. All I require is honesty. If a particular technique isn’t working I have many, many others I can use to achieve the desired effects.
So – how do I hypnotise someone? I identify and utilise their natural abilities and show them how to capitalise on their innate talents. I do this by talking them through what they can expect whilst not prescribing the experience. I don’t simply read from a script or expect them to automatically respond to specific inductions. It’s about being open and flexible….having the experience to be able to not only identify what techniques will be most useful in helping a person achieve trance, but also the skill set to be able to put those techniques into practice.
The result? Hundreds of happy and satisfied clients, including some who had been trying to trance for many, many years (my record is 20+ years). I don’t believe there is such a thing as someone who is “bad” at trancing, but I do believe in hypnotists who fail to appreciate the limitations of their skills and experience and prefer to place the blame (wrongly) on their subject. Never let a hypnotist try and tell you that you are a bad subject or difficult to trance. That statement says everything about them and nothing about you or your capabilities.
A good hypnotist will be able to work with you and tailor a session specifically to your needs. You should be able to trust the hypnotist, their motivation and their expertise and will be rewarded with a truly incredible experience.
If you’d like to know more about the experiences of some of my clients, then check out my testimonials page.
