by queenofdreams | Dec 1, 2017 | Hypnosis
I’ve developed somewhat of a reputation as being a “go to” hypnotist for people who’ve previously struggled to trance. Some of the wonderful clients who I have had the pleasure of working with have been trying for many, many years (I think the record so far is 20) to enjoy trance and had all but given up before they came to me.
Either people have been told by an (inept) hypnotist that they’re difficult or “impossible” to trance (utter nonsense) or they themselves have come to the conclusion that they’re no good at it because they’ve struggled to enjoy trance. It can be a frustrating and depressing experience being led to believe that you are incapable of achieving something you really want to enjoy and I have the greatest admiration for those who don’t give up and continue to pursue what they want because in my opinion there is no such thing as people who are “hard” to hypnotise.
Trance is an inherent ability we all possess, but we all learn in different ways (which is perfectly natural) so commonly used hypnosis induction techniques (to help someone achieve trance) may or may not be effective depending on the subjects personal learning style.
A good hypnotist will be able to quickly establish at least a basic understanding of how an individual best learns by talking to them, asking relevant questions and fine-tuning their approach to improve their insight.
Personally, I prefer to use a relaxed, conversational induction as a base that I then tailor specifically to the individual I am working with. Allowing the interaction to be more friendly and relaxed puts less stress on the subject, which is especially important if you’re dealing with someone who has already had multiple attempts at trancing end in failure.
By allowing someone to relax and clearly explaining how the process works and what they can expect you can help them to map-out the experience, giving more confidence and reassurance. If I am working with someone who I know has struggled to trance in the past then I know the “traditional” inductions are unlikely to be successful and this gives me license to unleash my creativity. It’s also important to reiterate that trance is a fun, relaxed experience. Your subconscious knows what to do, so my job as a hypnotist is to show you how to tap into your own innate talent and capitalise on it for your benefit.
You can’t use the same approach that other previous hypnotists have and just hope for a different outcome. I “read” the person – both in terms of what they say and how they say it, and also monitoring non-verbal communication which can be as subtle as a change in pupil dilation, flushed cheeks, breathing or any manner of other things. My role as a hypnotist is to lead, guide and teach.
If someone is being tranced and are struggling to achieve their goal then you can be damn sure that the issue lies with the hypnotist and not the person being tranced. The hypnotist needs to be able to tailor their approach to the individual they’re working with but so many hypnotists get stuck in a rut – parroting scripts they’ve learned verbatim or even worse reading directly from scripts. A hypnotist needs to be able to get creative – to improvise. To be able to understand the mechanisms that drive the trance experience and tailor them specifically to the individual they’re working with in a way in which that person can understand, and in doing so successfully engage with the experience. The hypnotist has to be confident in what they are doing and if a particular approach doesn’t yield the expected results don’t frame this as a failure (or even worse blame the subject) because it’s not. It’s a learning experience. It helps you narrow down and pin-point what will work. And it will work.
Analytical people are a brilliant example of this. If you’ve read some of my other blog posts you’ll know that I absolutely love working with analytical people. I totally geek out over it (I am an unashamed hypno-geek) and get very happy and excited. Why? Because in my experience analytical people make the absolute best subjects (read my other blog posts to find out why I feel this way) but many hypnotists are reluctant to work with analytical subjects and brand them as “bad” or “difficult to hypnotise” when in reality nothing is further from the truth.
It’s true that analytical people don’t always respond well to many popular inductions. Progressive relaxation inductions can be boring and drawn out if you’re of an analytically minded persuasion and many hypnotists tend to focus on telling their subject to “relax”, which, if you’re analytical will send your brain firing off in different directions going “how relaxed is relaxed? Am I relaxed enough? How do I relax more?” etc which completely derails the whole experience. Another common direction is to tell the subject to focus on the hypnotists voice and not to think of anything else. Again, if you’re analytical this is like saying “don’t think of a pink elephant”. What’s the first thing that comes to mind?
Of course none of this makes analytical people bad subjects. There are methods which can be effectively employed which utilise their inherent gifts and in my experience this results in analytical people being able to trance faster and deeper than most. What is important, however, is recognising the strengths of the individual you’re dealing with and tailoring your approach to them. If I ever hear a hypnotist try and tell me that someone is “hard to hypnotise” my immediate desire is to respond by pointing out that the subject isn’t the problem – it’s the limitations of the hypnotists ability which are showing through and falsely shifting the problem/limitation to the subject is disingenuous and unhelpful.
So in summation there’s no such thing as someone who’s “hard to hypnotise”, and if a hypnotist ever tries to tell you or insinuate that you are, run a mile! A good hypnotist will be able to tailor their approach to optimise your chances of success. Take time, research, shortlist and never be afraid to ask questions. You want to find a hypnotist whose style you like and who you feel comfortable with. Trance is possible and magical things can happen once you’re able to achieve it. This is why I am able to say that I can make fantasies come true on my homepage. Because I can and I do 🙂
If you have any questions or would like more information please feel free to email me at info@queenofdreamshypnosis.com or leave a comment below.
by queenofdreams | Nov 3, 2017 | Hypnosis
If you’re setting out on a new journey and you aren’t exactly sure where you’re going, but you like to think that it’s a journey you’ll be making with relative frequency from now on as the destination sounds pretty exciting, then would you rather make this journey alone or have someone to guide you? Someone to help point out landmarks along the way that you can then use to guide yourself the next time you come this way, even if you’re on your own.
I like to think of trance as a journey. So many people focus on the destination (being in trance), but there is a lot of pleasure to be found in the journey into trance as well. I’ve developed a technique which I use to help you appreciate the pleasure that can be found in the descent into trance (as well as in trance itself). This technique also helps you “signpost” your experience so that the next time you enjoy trancing you’ll find it easier to slip back into trance.
So – how does it work? In essence, everyone’s journey into trance and their experience of trancing is unique to them. There may be similarities, but your journey is your own and special to you. There will be certain physical signs that will become apparent as you begin to go into trance and as you go deeper into trance. Many times you won’t be consciously aware of these changes, however training yourself to recognise them can allow you to appreciate what stage of trance you’re at and be confident about the direction in which your experience is heading.
Doing this without any support can be tricky, so I aim to support you during live sessions by picking up on the subtle changes I see as you go into trance and reporting these back to you, bringing them to your conscious awareness. I appreciate that at first glance this sounds a little odd – after all, won’t it simply be an interruption and draw you back out of trance? Interestingly, the opposite is actually true. Talking/responding won’t stop/interrupt the trancing process, but being guided to be aware of the physical signs of your descent into trance can help you self-verify your experience and provide empirical proof that your trance experience is evolving. These signs vary from person to person but common iterations include breathing slowing and deepening, blinking, increased focus, etc.
This isn’t a technique that I am aware of other hypnotists using, and I do appreciate that on the surface it seems counter-intuitive but I can assure you I have had a great deal of success utilising this technique. It’s a great way for you to learn about your own trance experience and to be able to fully embrace and appreciate the pleasure that comes from going into trance, as well as being in trance itself. Once you have a better understanding of your own personal trance journey, then the next time you trance (live or to mp3 recordings) you will be better placed to feel more secure in your ability to trance and to enjoy the experience of being able to trance more effectively and deeply.
This technique, when applied properly and appropriately works with a wide range of people including analytical people and/or those who have previously struggled to trance.
If you’re curious about experiencing this for yourself, drop me a message at info@queenofdreamshypnosis.com and ask me any questions you may have. It’s also worth checking out my Live Sessions page at www.queenofdreamshypnosis.com/live-sessions/
by queenofdreams | Sep 22, 2017 | Hypnosis
This question gets asked from time to time so I figured I would address it in a blog post.
I know that many hypnotists incorporate sound effects in their recordings such as background/whisper tracks, binaural beats, etc. Different effects can have different impacts and some people enjoy the multi-faceted experience that comes with enhancing recordings in this way.
For some people, an excess of sound effects causes a mental overload as their mind can’t keep track of everything that’s going on, in effect creating a confusion induction which helps them to achieve trance.
For others, the subtle inclusion of background/whisper tracks and/or binaural beats adds an extra dimension to their trancing experience.
So why haven’t I jumped on the bandwagon? Why don’t I offer recordings with sound effects? It’s a good question and the answer is very simple: I want my recording to mimic live experiences with me as closely as possible. My style of hypnosis is different to “the norm” – I tend to use a nuanced, conversational style which rarely incorporates common themes such as countdowns. I personally love the “raw” nature of live sessions – there’s simply you and me and nothing else to interfere or get in the way, or distract. I aim to emulate that with my recordings so I can bring you as close as possible to my ideal.
My belief is that by keeping my recordings “simple” – just you, me and my voice – that this allows you to immerse yourself in the experience in a way that I think can sometimes (though not always, to be sure) lacking in over-engineered recordings where the additional sounds can become a distraction rather than an enticement.
Some recordings will and do work well with added sound effects and this is something I do plan to experiment with, but by and large my recordings will remain simple and intimate. I will be releasing a new recording soon which will have 2 options – one will be a regular recording, the other will be enhanced with sound effects. These two files will be bundled together so that you can pick and choose which you prefer. The recording is called “The Coin Toss”. Keep your eyes open for it!
by queenofdreams | Aug 25, 2017 | Hypnosis
The concept of erotic hypnosis is still a relatively niche one, and not as of yet particularly well developed. It’s growing, for sure, but there are still grey areas where delineations are somewhat blurred. The differentiation between what constitutes a hypnoDomme and an erotic hypnotist are excellent examples of this.
The two terms are often used interchangeably to mean “more or less” the same thing, but I’m not convinced that that’s the case. To my mind, if you’re a hypnoDomme then by the very nature of what you do you’re likely also an erotic hypnotist but I also believe it is possible to be an erotic hypnotist without also identifying as a hypnoDomme.
Why? Well, it all comes down to the specialities of each profession. To aim to make things a little clearer I’ve provided brief (and subjective as they’re purely based on my own interpretation) definitions of hypnoDommes and erotic hypnotists to hopefully better illustrate my point of view.
HypnoDommes are hypnotists who specialise in working within the BDSM niche. They utilise hypnosis as a means to heighten/deepen typical D/s (Dominant/submissive) scenarios. The focus is on creating a richer dynamic, and introducing trance allows a hypnoDomme to deepen their control (with the consent of their subject) which allows for an often much more intense experience. What were traditionally physical aspects of the BDSM scene – for example bondage – can also be brought into play as a hypnoDomme can use the power of a hypnotic trance to convince a subject that they are appropriately bound (and have the subject believe this absolutely) even in the absence of physical restraints.
Erotic Hypnotists are more generalised. The application of hypnosis is for the purpose of eroticism/arousal and whilst this can encompass D/s elements, it is by no means confined to them. Hands-free orgasms, for example, can be used by HypnoDommes as an expression of control but they do not need to be framed this way. An erotic hypnotist could induce a hands-free orgasm purely because it is a pleasurable/erotic experience. Some people do not like the idea of being submissive/giving up control and with erotic hypnosis they do not have to. Giving up control is not a requirement to enjoy trance. It’s simply an added option that exists if you want to utilise it.
Personally I identify as an erotic hypnotist who can and does incorporate being a hypnoDomme when it’s appropriate to do so. Why do I identify myself this way? Because my main focus is pleasure, and (as long as it’s legal of course), I don’t discriminate how that pleasure is enjoyed. Some people’s pleasure incorporates submissive elements, but for others it doesn’t and I like being able to embrace both sides. Besides, even when I do incorporate D/s elements into trances, my style of domination is typically much more subtle and nuanced than the average Domme. I’m not overt, I don’t make demands…but I still manage to accept and exert complete control where appropriate.
I hope that as the erotic hypnosis/hypnoDomme scene continues to grow the delineations and nuances between the two will continue to become more pronounced as I do worry sometimes that people who may be interested in Erotic Hypnosis are perhaps discouraged by the assumption that submission/surrender and other D/s elements are required. Erotic hypnosis is open to all who enjoy pleasure in all its forms. As a hypnotist I can literally make your fantasies become your realities and let’s be honest– how cool is that?!
I would love to hear your thoughts on the similarities/differences between hypnoDommes and erotic hypnosis so please feel free to share in the comments below.
by queenofdreams | Aug 21, 2017 | Hypnosis
So the eclipse happening today (21st August 2017) has been in the news (certainly in the US) a good deal recently. It sparked an interesting conversation between myself and a dear friend about the parallels between eclipses and hypnosis and to that end we both decided to express our thoughts. My friend me-chan’s story can be found here: Eclipsed (excellently written and well worth a read!) and I’ve included my own thoughts in a recording for you below.
As always, relax, indulge, enjoy and if you appreciate it and/or have thoughts/comments please do share – makes my day 🙂
