Choosing the “right” hypnotist to work with is very subjective, but also incredibly important. It’s also often overlooked and/or not properly understood and its implications appropriately appreciated. It’s very easy (especially if you’re new to hypnosis) to get caught up in the excitement and dive right into the first hypnotist you come across who seems to offer what you want. If you choose to do that, you’re looking at 3 possible outcomes:
- You get super lucky and the hypnotist you choose has a style which works for you, is ethical and is able to successfully trance you and give you an excellent and positive experience. Yes, this is the ideal, but without adequate prior research it’s also very unlikely.
- You find a hypnotist who is able to hypnotise you, but has questionable ethics. This may be exciting in the first instance but could cause you problems down the line – either being persuaded to doing things that you’re not comfortable with.
- The hypnotist you choose isn’t actually any good/lacks experience/their style of hypnosis doesn’t work with you and you aren’t successfully able to enjoy trance.
So looking at the options above, in theory yes it is possible that you get lucky right off the bat, but honestly – the odds of that are slim at best. Research is your friend. I cannot emphasize this enough. The more time and energy you invest into research, the better your results will be. Research isn’t time wasted – I deliberately used the phrase “invest” because you are investing in your experience to ensure that it is as positive as it can be. By understanding what you want and how to achieve it, you’re significantly raising your odds of enjoying a deeply powerful and pleasurable experience – which is what hypnosis/trance should be!
I want to help you achieve the best possible experience with trance so I’ve listed a few suggestions/pointers to help you with your research:
Step 1: Start off by thinking carefully about what you want to achieve and what’s important to you. At this stage you don’t need a lot of detail/specifics, but having a rough idea of what you want will help you narrow down which hypnotists will be suitable and will make it easier to navigate options. What you want to achieve may well evolve over time, but right now – in this moment – what are your goals and priorities? Do you want genuine trance or roleplay? What fetishes/interests do you have that you want to incorporate? Think through what an ideal first session would look like to you. How would it play out? I’m not suggesting that the reality will be a perfect match for your ideal, but if you have an idea of what you want, you will be able to articulate your desires to your hypnotist which means they can tailor the session more specifically to you and what you want.
Step 2: Explore. Google is your friend in this instance. There are many, many hypnoDommes and Erotic Hypnotists out there, all with their own specialties and areas of expertise. Many genuine professionals will have free recordings which you can listen to so that you can gauge whether or not their style/approach works for you. At this stage you may or may not trance listening to the free recordings, and that’s okay – what’s more important is whether you like their voice and their style. For trance to be truly effective and fulfilling, you want to find a hypnotist who you enjoy – who you can enjoy listening to regularly, over the long-term. If you’re curious about a recording but have concerns over the integrity of the hypnotist/content (are worried that you may be involuntarily coerced in some way, for example), I have a free recording entitled “Art of control” that you will find useful. It will allow you to retain control when appropriate so that you can avoid feeling vulnerable when listening to recordings.
Use different search terms in google to yield different results – hypnoDomme and erotic hypnosis are two common search terms, but experiment and see what works for you. Also look beyond the first page of results. There are many excellent hypnotists who are sadly lacking in SEO skills and it would be a shame for them to be overlooked simply because they fail to make the first page!
Also reach out to the community for recommendations. There’s an active hypnoDomme scene on Twitter as well as sites like Inraptured and Hypwatch.
Step 3: Once you’ve listened to a number of different hypnotists, draw up a shortlist of hypnotists that you like. Listening and exploring may have given you new ideas for what you want to experience and that’s great – make a note of them! It also may have helped you firm-up what qualities you’re looking for in a hypnotist so be sure to record those, too. Once you have the shortlist (I’d say maybe around 5 hypnotists – you may want more, you may want less. Decide what’s manageable), think about what questions you’d like to ask them. Trust is really, really important in hypnosis and so taking time to learn about the person who could potentially be trancing you will go a long way to helping you trust them. Do you want to know about their background? How they got into hypnosis? Their experience to date? What they specialise in? What do they enjoy? Why do they do hypnosis? Please don’t throw 1001 questions at a hypnotist – we are professionals and as such we are often very busy and our time is limited – but any good hypnotist should be happy to answer one or two well thought out questions that help you establish whether or not they are the right hypnotist for you.
If you have any concerns that you may (or have previously) struggled to trance, don’t be afraid to ask if/how a hypnotist deals with such situations. A good hypnotist will be honest (some do not have the experience/expertise to work with people who don’t respond well to standard inductions. It doesn’t mean that you are a “bad” subject in any way – everyone learns differently. It simply speaks to the hypnotists lack of experience, which is also not a bad thing. Hypnosis is a skill which takes time to learn and develop) and should explain what type of clients they work with and give an overview of the techniques they use.
It’s also worth reading testimonials as this should give you an indication of what you can expect. If you haven’t already, this represents another good opportunity to reach out to the community and ask others for advice/suggestions/feedback from their own experiences. You want to get a feel for each hypnotists style, attitude and approach. If you like their voice but struggle to trance to their mp3’s then speak to them about a live one-to-one session over the phone or Skype. Live sessions can be a great way to lay solid foundations for you to build your trance experience on. Because they can be tailored specifically to you and your needs, as well as helping you become more confident at trancing, which in turn will make it easier to enjoy trancing to mp3 recordings.
Once you’ve settled on a hypnotist whose style you like and who works for you, stick with them – at least initially. Building a rapport with and allowing yourself to become accustomed to a single hypnotist and their style will help make it easier for you to trance. The more of their work you listen to, the easier trancing will become. You will learn to feel comfortable with them, trance easier to their voice and this will help establish a richer and more fulfilling trance experience.
Final Notes: I know taking time to research in advance can seem boring and unnecessary – that it’s somehow holding you back from jumping into trance. The reality, however is that spending a little time researching will pay absolute dividends in the long run and will help you establish a strong foundation on which to build your hypnotic/trance experiences.
If you have any questions, you can always get in contact by emailing me at firstname.lastname@example.org
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It’s been an interesting journey for me, hypnosis. For years it was a hobby until after 2 years of persuasion, a good friend friend encouraged me to go pro. I’ve been doing hypnosis full time for around a year now and it’s been such an incredible experience. The freedom it’s given me – both in terms of creative expression and simply time (I set my own schedule) has been absolutely invaluable.
Whilst my primary focus has always been on the live Skype hypnosis sessions which I absolutely love (and which testimonials suggest are also loved by those who enjoy such sessions with me), I’ve also been building a catalogue of recordings. I wanted to share my top 5 mp3’s right now. My favorites change often depending on my moods, but these 5 recordings (offered in no particular order of preference) are the ones that currently make my little heart happy:
This recording will always hold a special place in my heart as it was the first mp3 I ever made. It’s deliciously dark…a seductive story that leads you on a journey of obedience and surrender…enthralls you with the power of submission. It’s a story that draws you in…nourishes and plays your desire to submit. I take you out for the evening…control you…and build the anticipation.
Down The Rabbit Hole
This is a confusion induction recording. Confusion inductions can be tricky to execute correctly – especially in recordings as you have no way of accurately gauging how the individual who is listening is responding. Still – I’ve never been one to shy away from a challenge and I have to say I am really, really pleased with how this recording has turned out. It’s very effective but it’s also not too “hard” as some confusion inductions can be. It’s not intended to overwhelm and confuse in an uncomfortable way. It’s fun and ephemeral and whimsical…inviting you on a surreal journey loosely based on that of Alice in Wonderland. A really fun and unusual recording that I am very proud of.
Surrender & Obey
This was one of my first forays into the more direct dominant style which is typical of hypnoDommes. Generally my style is quieter…more seductive. But this time I wanted to explore my dominant side and let it out to play for a little while. “Surrender & Obey” was the result, and boy have you boys responded to it. It’s a consistently popular file and encouraged me to explore my darker, more directly dominant side more which led to…
This started out as an experiment. I wanted to push the limits of dominance and pleasure whilst still maintaining my boundaries. A direct, intense and dominant file, I’ve made sure there is absolutely no humiliation. That was very important to me. This recording took a long, long time to come together as I was pushing my own boundaries…discovering what was possible and how I could incorporate intense domination into my typically softer style and approach. But this recording, once finished, worked. And boy does it work! It’s probably one of my most popular recordings to date and I love that I get to completely unleash my inner Domme and remind you who is in control…moulding you to become my obedient fucktoy. It’s deep and intense and powerful.
If you know me then you know I love pleasure. I love encouraging people to enjoy and embrace pleasure. To discover new pleasure. To push the limits of pleasure…and that’s exactly what this recording does. Perfectly. You know what an orgasm is – well a mindgasm is the mental equivalent. Flooding your mind with waves of intense, orgasmic pleasure. I love this recording because it’s so pleasure focused and because it is so, so effective.
You can explore these recordings and more by checking out my MP3 and Video shop as well as listening to samples.
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The possibilities when it comes to ways to hypnotise a person are nearly limitless. I know because I have a lot of fun creating new ways to trance people, as well as tailoring existing methods to better suit individuals I am working with. So in this blog I am going to talk specifically about how I hypnotise people. My way isn’t the only way, though. Different people will have different techniques and strategies. I just thought it would be interesting to give you a little insight into how I hypnotise people, especially as I work a lot with analytical people and those who have previously struggled to trance.
If you want to understand hypnosis, however, you need to begin by understanding what it is and how it works. That includes understanding what hypnosis isn’t. There are so many misconceptions associated with hypnosis that it can be difficult to distinguish the reality from the many and varied assumptions floating around.
The most important thing to remember is that the ability to trance is natural and innate. Every time you’ve daydreamed, gotten lost in thought or driven on auto-pilot you’ve enjoyed a light trance state. The role of a hypnotist is to show you how to capitalise on this innate talent you already possess so it can be utilised to your advantage.
Some hypnotists try and pass off hypnosis as magical or mystical – or as a special power only they possess (which is nonsense). The worst will simply sit there and read from a pre-prepared script. In my (humble) opinion, such people are to be avoided. A good hypnotist won’t need a script for a live session. Their techniques should be tailored specifically to you and should be adapted based on what works for you.
The key to successfully trancing someone is to recognise, utilise and build upon their existing natural talents rather than just force your own style/script upon them. I like to use a conversational induction as a base initially as a lot of people who have sessions with me are initially nervous/excited and this gives them an opportunity to chat with me, get to know me, calm their nerves and settle into the experience. It also helps me get to know them and to understand what techniques I can employ from my vast “hypnotic toolbox” to help them enjoy trance. I can also chat to them and dispel many of the common misconceptions surrounding hypnosis – you won’t be asleep or unconscious (if anything you’ll be more self-aware and in control of yourself than usual), for example – and also give them the opportunity to ask me any questions they may have. You don’t have to be relaxed to enjoy trance, but it does help if you’re comfortable.
As I like to tell my clients, trance is actually the easiest thing in the world as you don’t have to actually “do” anything to make it happen. Your subconscious already knows what to do and all you need to do is get out of your own way and allow it to happen. As a hypnotist I see my role as a guide or a teacher, showing you how to capitalise on your natural abilities. I often use the analogy of learning a new skill…say you wanted to teach yourself to play the piano. Sure, you can teach yourself the basics but if you want to see real improvements you bring in someone to teach you. You’re still the one playing, but with appropriate guidance how you play improves.
I am there to guide and reassure. You can trance with your eyes open or your eyes closed. This is your experience. It’s unique to you. There’s no right or wrong way to “do” trance. It’s also not a binary state. So many people are focused on the idea of being in trance and achieving that state that they often miss out on the pleasure of actually going into trance and how good that feels. As I am an avid fan of pleasure in all its forms I regularly encourage people to allow themselves to be aware of and embrace the pleasurable sensations of actually going into trance. Being open to that experience helps guide you easily into deeper trance states so it’s a win-win.
Every person has their own trance journey that is unique to them. They also have unique “tells” or markers that occur at different stages. Most competent hypnotists will be aware of these and utilise them to help guide their client into trance/deeper trance. I take this one step further by actively pointing out what I notice to the person I’m working with (something most hypnotists don’t do, I presume as they like to maintain the mystical/magical aspect of trance and/or feel that withholding this information gives them more control? Who knows?). I refer to this as signposting the trance experience. The markers differ for each person – they’re like a unique fingerprint. Some people’s breathing deepens and slows…some people blink more and/or their eyes close, etc, etc. Sometimes people are aware that this is happening, sometimes not, but by bringing it to their attention they will be able to recognise their own unique markers which can act as “touch points”, reassuring them of the stage they’re at what what to expect when they trance again in the future.
Some signals are obvious, some are incredibly subtle but years of experience have taught me how to identify and work with my client’s natural abilities. I’ve developed a confidence borne of experience which definitely helps – as does the fact that I am comfortable switching things up and adapting to my clients needs. All I require is honesty. If a particular technique isn’t working I have many, many others I can use to achieve the desired effects.
So – how do I hypnotise someone? I identify and utilise their natural abilities and show them how to capitalise on their innate talents. I do this by talking them through what they can expect whilst not prescribing the experience. I don’t simply read from a script or expect them to automatically respond to specific inductions. It’s about being open and flexible….having the experience to be able to not only identify what techniques will be most useful in helping a person achieve trance, but also the skill set to be able to put those techniques into practice.
The result? Hundreds of happy and satisfied clients, including some who had been trying to trance for many, many years (my record is 20+ years). I don’t believe there is such a thing as someone who is “bad” at trancing, but I do believe in hypnotists who fail to appreciate the limitations of their skills and experience and prefer to place the blame (wrongly) on their subject. Never let a hypnotist try and tell you that you are a bad subject or difficult to trance. That statement says everything about them and nothing about you or your capabilities.
A good hypnotist will be able to work with you and tailor a session specifically to your needs. You should be able to trust the hypnotist, their motivation and their expertise and will be rewarded with a truly incredible experience.
If you’d like to know more about the experiences of some of my clients, then check out my testimonials page.
There are many, many reasons why you may be struggling to enjoy trance. Fear, lack of confidence, over-confidence…there are a lot of possibilities and I am going to delve into a few of these below. This article is not intended to be exhaustive so, if after reading you find that you still have some questions please get in touch.
One thing I have learned over years is that to a lot of people, hypnosis is akin to magic. Many people are skeptical – they don’t believe it works, or aren’t sure how it could/does work. They don’t understand it, even if they can see it happening to someone else right in front of their eyes. That lack of understanding can often breed fear or insecurity, which is a common reason for not being able to enjoy trance, but there are other reasons, too.
I’ve also come across people who have informed themselves about hypnosis – they’ve read up on it, understand the theories behind it and, armed with this knowledge dive in expecting trance to be easy, only to find themselves frustrated when they struggle. Sound familiar?
The problem is that whilst ignorance breeds fear, knowledge can breed expectation, and expectation can hinder your ability to enjoy trance. Why? Because hypnotic trance is subjective. It is a profound and deeply personal experience. Yes there are some external physiological signs which hypnotists can use to pick up on the fact that someone is either going in to trance or already in trance, but the subjective experience of enjoying trance varies from person to person. You may get some consistent generalisations – that it feels “nice”, or “pleasurable”, but the subjective nature of trance is one of the reasons why it is so difficult to quantify.
With this in mind, if you sit down to enjoy trance and have expectations based around knowledge you’ve acquired from research then you may be unintentionally subjecting yourself to beliefs and expectations which could theoretically hinder your experience. To give one example it is a commonly held belief that you need to have your eyes closed to go into trance, but in reality this is simply not true. Yes, it may help some people to enjoy entering trance more easily, but it is certainly not a necessity.
So – what’s the solution? Well, if the main element that is holding you back is fear, then by all means do all the research you can to reassure yourself that hypnosis is perfectly safe (it is, I promise!) and the basic mechanics of how it works (e.g. you won’t be asleep, you’ll be aware of what’s going on around you and you’ll be more relaxed and focused than usual). If your difficulty is expectations borne out of research then my advice is simple – let go. Unburden yourself from expectations about what you think you should be experiencing and instead allow yourself to be curious about what you are experiencing.
Enjoying trance can be the easiest thing in the world if you allow it to be. Yes, it can take practice, but the practice is not about the trance itself. It is about training yourself to become aware of all the little signals that are signposting your descent into trance. These may include your breathing naturally slowing, your mind becoming quiet….these are all possibilities, but the reality is you have to be open to discovering what your unique signposts are and embracing them. Once you accomplish this, then you will find it much easier to enjoy a deep and fulfilling trance.
Remember – if you have any questions, please do not hesitate to get in touch. Either email me at email@example.com or drop me a message on Twitter @British_Hypno.
I firmly believe that a lot of people who have submissive tendencies (especially people not already accustomed to the BDSM/fetish scene) shy away from labeling themselves as submissive, or even indulging their submissive side because they disagree with the commonly held view that to be submissive is to be less than, to be open to being humiliated/degraded or even to mean that if you’re submissive you’re meant to be submissive to anyone who asserts themselves as dominant.
If you’ve only recently discovered/accepted/embraced your submissive tendencies and you are otherwise vanilla and unfamiliar with the BDSM/kink scene then many of the “assumptions” made about what it means to be submissive can range from simply confusing to downright off-putting if you’re still unsure about what it means and how you feel.
I’ve seen comments that subs are “worthless” or “beneath” dominants, and there is regular insinuation or open talk of humiliation and degradation which personally I find very unpalatable. I do appreciate that being submissive encompasses a broad range of possibilities in terms of how the individual’s submission is expressed but my concern is that the more extreme elements appear to dominate and I worry that this may be alienating/pushing away many submissives who don’t identify with these.
Being submissive doesn’t necessarily make you submissive in general. Many of my boys choose and/or feel submissive only to me. Feeling unexpectedly submissive toward someone when you don’t identify as submissive (and/or typically identify as an alpha personality) can be confusing. Especially when you research and see so many references to humiliation and degradation. What if you feel submissive but don’t want to be humiliated? Does that mean you’re not submissive? Then why do you feel submissive?
Whilst some Dom/mes can use humiliation as a tool as part of submission (consensually, one would hope), I don’t see it as an inherent part of submission. At its essence, submission is just that – a desire to submit. Yes there are a lot of add-ons which are dependent upon the individuals personal kinks, but submission doesn’t have to be complex. It often is for a variety of reasons, but it doesn’t have to be.
For my part, I refuse to humiliate those who choose to be submissive to me. I do not see them as beneath me or “less than” in any way, shape or form. My own personal take is that submission is a gift which should be offered to someone who you trust and respect, and who in turn respects you. The recipient of the gift of submission/surrender should appreciate its value and treasure it appropriately. Genuinely offered submission is precious and should be treated as such.
A Dominant has a responsibility to their subs. Trust and communication on both sides are vital ingredients to a healthy dynamic. Again, I appreciate that some Dom/mes like to dictate their subs lives, make all their decisions for them, etc, but I question how healthy this dynamic is. Just because I am in control doesn’t (and shouldn’t) mean that I have to constantly exert that control. Surely if the control needs to be constantly enforced then the foundations weren’t very strong to begin with? Surely far better to encourage a submissive to show their respect to their Dominant by being the best possible version of themselves that they can be. By using their initiative to better themselves and finding ways to please their Dominant. This doesn’t exclude the Dominant party from taking complete control on occasion, but operating in this way those occasions become mutually pleasurable ways to reinforce the dynamic at appropriate intervals rather than constantly working to prop it up. I know I would find a sub who is confident in their submission and comfortable taking initiative far more valuable than one who constantly seeks attention and direction. The D/s dynamic should be pleasurable, enriching and valuable to both parties – not emotionally painful (I do appreciate some seek out physical pain for various reasons) and/or exploitative.
I think it’s also important to have a “safe space” for those new to/exploring submission. One where they can feel comfortable coming to terms with what submission means to them. Yes, eventually their submissive needs may evolve to encompass more elements/may become more “hardcore”, but more should be done to engage those new to submission with more reassurance and awareness of options available. Submission isn’t a “one size fits all” deal. It’s okay to dip your toe in the water and explore without engaging in humiliation. Humiliation isn’t a core aspect of submission and if I could shout that from the rooftops, then believe me I would!
Submission is a personal journey. Take your time and recognise your submission for the gift it is. Save it for someone special who deserves it, respects your gift and will take care of you.
Is it possible to utilise hypnosis to enjoy hands free orgasms?
The short answer is yes, definitely (check out the videos here for evidence)
Ending there, however, wouldn’t make for a particularly interesting or informative so as I get asked about hands-free orgasms and hypnosis quite a bit I’m going to use this post to talk in a little more detail about hands free orgasms, how they work, and how I incorporate them into my sessions.
Most people tend to associate orgasms with ejaculation (particularly when it comes to men). It’s understandable as both experiences happen simultaneously, but although they are connected they’re not a single action. It is perfectly possible to enjoy a physical, pleasurable orgasm without ejaculating. As I like to say – all of the fun and none of the mess. In addition, it’s possible to enjoy an orgasm without physical stimulation (e.g. masturbating). Mind blown – am I right? Haha.
So – how does it happen? Well, I can only speak to how I incorporate this into my hypnosis sessions (others may do things differently) but the good news for you is it’s pretty straightforward. I essentially incorporate the orgasm (sans ejaculation) as a response to a given command/trigger/post-hypnotic trigger. So, when I have you in trance I essentially make a deal with your subconscious that when I say the “trigger” word/command (in this case “orgasm”), your body instantly, without consciously thinking about it, responds to my command with a physical (and very pleasurable) orgasm.
The benefit of doing things this way is that you can orgasm in trance, but the trigger/command can also be used as a post-hypnotic suggestion which means that it works out of trance as well. I often have a lot of fun randomly triggering my regular boys at unexpected moments during sessions just for fun. Of course, safety is also important so whenever I give a trigger like this it comes with the understanding that the triggers only work when I give them. This means you won’t be unexpectedly triggered at an inopportune moment.
Your mind essentially constructs your reality. By accessing your subconscious mind through hypnosis I am able to tap into the immense power that your mind holds, but which your conscious mind only has limited access to. You may feel an orgasm in your cock, but it all starts in your mind.
As with any trigger, some people are able to enjoy this in their first session, for others it can take longer. It’s different for everyone. I’ve had some clients who have taken a couple of sessions to come to terms with the revelation of hands-free orgasms and fully embrace its potential, but have been able to enjoy other triggers instantly. Conversely I’ve had a boy who mastered the orgasm trigger in the first session, but took a while to feel comfortable with amnesia.
Everyone is different. I can’t emphasize this enough. If a trigger doesn’t “take” as well as you hoped in the first instance it doesn’t mean you’ve “failed” in any way. It simply means your subconscious needs more time to adjust to/embrace the possibilities and that is absolutely fine. I have a lot of tools in my “hypnotic toolbox” and if one strategy doesn’t have the desired effect then I have plenty of other options to achieve the desired result.
The important thing is to have fun – to enjoy the experience and not sweat the small stuff. Just because something doesn’t happen right now don’t mean it won’t happen. The fear of failure holds a lot of people back and acts as a barrier to achieving what you want but if you work with a hypnotist who you trust and embrace a little patience when required (not always easy, but the rewards are more than worth it!) then you can enjoy pleasurable experiences – like hands-free orgasms – beyond your wildest imagination.
For instance I’ve also trained some of my boys to cum on command (sometimes without even needing to implant a specific trigger…isn’t it amazing what can be achieved when you truly submit to the power and control of a wonderful hypnotist?). Not only do they cum on command, but they can cum multiple times (in quick succession) if I command it. As I have already said – amazing things are possible, and the hardest part is taking that first step and engaging with the hypnotist, booking a session. I always recommend live sessions (at least initially) for hands-free orgasms as it means I can tailor the experience specifically to you. If you’ve tried MP3 triggers in the past without success it doesn’t mean you’re not capable – it simply means that your odds of success will skyrocket with a live session where the hypnotist can work with you in real time.
I’m also able to say to my boys (completely truthfully) that it gets better every time. Because it does. The more you engage with a specific hypnotist. The more you engage with that relationship, the more trust you build and the more possibilities for pleasure you unlock. It really is that simple.
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